His Side: He thinks that openly talking to guys on the net,on sexual subjects, even off answers, Is wrong and inapproite for her. And when she lies about who she is talking to, that the trust is broken.
Her side: She see's no harm talking to anyone, even guys, on the net. Even if it involves sexual subjects. And the lies are just to make sure there is not a argument.
Who is right?
2006-09-05 16:36:57 · 19 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that if she really cares for him, she wouldn't continue to do something that she knows upsets him.
2006-09-05 16:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by skiguy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both wrong. She wouldn't be talking to other guys on the internet about anything if her man was taking care of her needs. Which puts him in the wrong for being inattentive. She's wrong because rather than talk to him about her needs, she's talking to other guys. Which means she lacks communication skills.
He's wrong for questioning her internet usage, she's wrong for lying about it. Both point to insecurities.
Solution: Both of you grow up, sit down and have a heart to heart about what you really expect, want and need out of this relationship. If you can make the necessary adjustments and work through this, it's going to make you a stronger couple. If it leads to more arguments, then maybe it's time to realize the expectations each of you had are a far cry from reality and you need to move on.
2006-09-05 23:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about inappropriate things to the opposite sex, especially from a girl to a boy may lead to misconcepcions. There is a very big possibility the man on the other end thinks the girl is very much open to things, and in the future, may ask a different kind of question she won't find very harmless anymore.
2006-09-05 23:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by beerbubblebaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is. How would she like it if he talked about sexual things on the net with other girls. Sounds like something is missing in their relationship if she feels the need to have these on line chats. Sounds like you are shacked up together.. best you wise up and make her get her own place. She takes you for granted.
2006-09-05 23:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is wrong to talk to the opposite sex in a "sexual manner". I bet if you were talking to girls she would flip out. So ask her to stop and that you consider it cheating being somewhat sexual with someone else. She might start like that on the net.....but spread out to actual contact. So if she doesn't stop..........leave her.
2006-09-05 23:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right or wrong on either side you have to be frank as its just a subject put on the net both sides want to have many friends and chit chat is one that let them know there are people who cares....
2006-09-05 23:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by chrystalhow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she is wrong for lying, but if its not big deal to begin with, i can see why she would lye to avoid unnecessary fights..but she should respect him enough to not talk about sexual things, and he should relax a little on on talking to people on the net if its just casual conversation
2006-09-05 23:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what she is doing is harmless. You, however, do not. But it seems she is unwilling to compromise to keep you happy, which is perhaps a more telling point than the original question. It is not that what she is doing is right or wrong, it is her refusal to consider your feelings that is the key issue.
2006-09-05 23:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just wrong. she could just be doing it to have fun, but usually after so much fun and sexual innuendo, there will be some kind of a match and they will want to meet to fulfill the online playing.
unless she is an extreme tease and does it just to get a rise out of men, but ......i doubt it
2006-09-05 23:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any lying cannot be good. Genuine love should move anyone to consider the feelings of their partner and motivate them to stop what is hurting them.
2006-09-05 23:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are so insecure. grow up. have you own adult conversations with women.
Why the heck should anyone dictate what another adult speaks about? Do you OWN her? How about her MIND? You are a control freak. And if your so worried about loosing her...why don't you try harder to insure she doesn't leave? She'll leave if she wants to, trying to control her only speeds that process.
2006-09-05 23:41:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋