Is marriage necessary for a girl?why parents force to get married?

Question

I am a 19 year old girl,having good personality.I am doing BCA.I want to help orphan childs with all my money.so I don't want to get married.

Answer 1

we r Indians in our culture there is marriage system is compulsary 4 a girl . a aged girl is burden to their parents so plz listen ur parents words &marry parents do evything 4 our good y can't u help orphan children after marriage?donating all money is not better,u donate 75% of ur money its better after marriage convence ur husb &help children what wrong in it ?everyone will encourage goodwill. if u do good once the good returns twice to u.so don't hurt ur parents &marry a good person and help children.ok as a friend i adviced u if u like to do friendship with me my id is [e-mail] send msg 2 me i will b waiting 4 ur message.bye!

Answer 2

Marriage is a choice. If you don't want to get married, you shouldn't have to and shouldn't allow anyone to force you to be married. I know that in some religions marriage is a must... but to me, marriage should only take place when two people love each other and want to tie the knot because they are well aware of the long commitment they're making.
There is nothing wrong with not getting married, especially under the circumstances in which you are donating to orphans... but if you do want to get married but are afraid if you do, you won't be able to donate, that's not true.
Either way, marriage or not, you can do what you would like.

Answer 3

no one "forces" you to marry. Step out of the stereotypical gender role and enjoy life. There is more to life than wedding bells. You are not living your parents life, you are living your own.

i am greatly angered by all the people that are saying that marriage is a necessity. Who in the world said you need to be married to be finacially secure, to be happy, to recieve love and affection? I think that the reason there is so much divorce is BECAUSE people feel that marriage is a NECESSITY with is NOT TRUE. people can be perfeclty happy doing what they love doing with or without being married. Marriage nowadays is pretty much a joke anyways. With the divorce rate around the 50% mark why would anyone suggest that marriage is a necessity? they don't last half the time anyway

Answer 4

First, I would like to congratulate you for your good intentions towards orphaned children.

To answer your question, marriage (depending on your religion/faith/belief) is necessary to legalize/solemnize a relationship as well as physical contact/intimacy between a man and a woman hence, making them eligible to have legally conceived children.

In Islam, a child who is conceived out of wedlock (lovechild) can never inherit anything (money, assets, properties, business etc) from the parents when the parents pass away and can never use the father's name as a surname but is to use Abdullah as a surname (but this doesn't mean that all muslims that you know/may know in the future who has this name as a surname is a lovechild. Abdullah is a very common name for a muslim man).

I don't think anyone should be forced to get married by anybody. Marriage is a very big thing that involves a lot of commitment from the parties involved. Try to explain why you made this choice to your parents but girl, just keep your options open.

You will never know who you will be meeting in the future.

Answer 5

My parents had a forced marriage. They've been arguing about the same things as far as my memory goes back and before I was even born - 19 years. That's almost two decades. I'm thinking of moving out but that's near enough impossible for a Bangladeshi Muslim girl where moving out before marriage is a major taboo...

Answer 6

Your thoughts are noble and you have a long way to go before you get married. At 19 you are still young to shoulder the responsbilities of marriage and family. I guess u dont want to get married "as of now", thats perfectly alright. But remember that if you want to be married at a later stage..your age factor will play a critical role. Keeping in mind that as a girl grows older and her biological clock keeps ticking away... sort out your priorities and work on it. Parents shouldnt force you into marriage. Marriage is an institution of love and commitment and it cant be forced.
All the best to you.
Sunshine.

Answer 7

Well, if you believe that genes and instincts govern everything,
its pretty simple: Parents want their daughters to marry so
that they have all the aid they need to bring children (grandchildren)
into the world to spread their genes.

If daughters don't marry, your genes won't propagate.

Clearly, that isn't entirely or always true. Women can certainly
have children without marriage, and women can get the
necessary assistance required for child rearing from people
other than husbands.

However ... all other things being equal, it is in your parent's
genes' best interest to have their daughter marry for life
(and then reproduce as many times as she can while
still doing her level best to make sure that her children
survive).

Answer 8

Hi shilpa its a really nice thought you have of helpinh orphans... at this point of time you are young and a bit rebellious about getting married but then when you are much older and a bit more sober the you would realise that you may require some support in your life.... which may be too late !!!
You can talk to your parents to delay the marriage and you can decide later if you need to get married or not.

Answer 9

then don't get married. it's a pressured subject sometimes and sounds like you don't need the added stress that comes along with it. some people just aren't the marrying type from my understanding, though some still do it. only marry if you are truly happy, in love and because you want to.

Answer 10

Not necessary. A human being is supposed to live in society which further demands it to be a social one. Marriage is a social authorization which supports you to make conjugal relations within social limits to fulfill your bodily needs like sex & child birth as the same is mandatory for all.

By thinking not to marriage, you want to escape from your bodily needs or you want to fulfil it some other way! I'm sure the other way is never supported by society.