I was with my man for six years and he constantly went to jail and cheated.I stood by him because people do go threw things in life and I loved him, so then friends of mine and friends of his said you know woop woop has been messing with the neighborhood rat but I didnt believe it until someone came and told me he got her pregnant .So we were engaged at this time when I then found out he married her. I confronted him about it and he denied it , about a year later he admitted it and said he made a mistake so please dont leave him .Well i put him out our house and basically just cut it off but he is constantly trying to ruin all my relationships by threating them trying to make my life miserable .I just dont know why he keeps trying to hold on when he has started a new life, so how can I get him to leave me alone? and why did he do all this and thinks he can still be with me?
2006-09-05 16:20:00 · 21 answers · asked by marrissa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All of you are right I was excepting everything he did but I have moved and he finds me in the oddest places ,we dont have each others number and I dont know where he lives to put a restraining order this is just a ugly situation.
Thanks for the feed back every one
2006-09-05 17:06:05 · update #1
Girl, you did the right thing about the restraining order and all. Now, have you learned how to put yourself first and not worry about all the past hurt that he put you through. The first step in healing is forgiving and moving to better. You can do bad by yourself. You can start by loving yourself first. You go girl keep your head up and seek the Lord in the process, on which direction you should go,it won't hurt I promise you that.. Keep on moving and don't look back...
2006-09-05 18:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by pam7530 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Men Are Dogs , There Really Is No Other Answer For It. I Was With My Man Got Pregnant And He Decided That I set Him Up Ad He Didn't Want No Babies. Then He Came Around After The Baby Was Born And Come To Find Out He Was Cheating The Whole Time I Was Pregnant With His CHild With His Ex- Girlfriend I Mean That Was Pretty Low The Only WAy i Found Out Was By Getting Into His Voice Mail And 18 Months Later he Still Will Not Come Clean About It.
2006-09-05 16:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason he is doing this, is because you let him honey. Think back to all the times he cheated, the times he went to jail....you took him back each time. No matter what this man did, YOU TOOK HIM BACK! Why should it be any different now? For the past six years, his life has been a mess and filled with bad decisions. The one thing he could always count on, was you being there. Right now, he thinks he just made another mistake that he assumes you are going to overlook and take him back again. Sweetie to maintain your sanity, don't. It may be a small town, word may get around fast, and he can be a royal pain in the a@@ for some time, but eventually he'll realize he screwed up and pushed things to far, and he'll move on. You don't need this kind of man in your life treating you with such disrespect, you are better than this and you deserve better than this. Keep telling yourself that and you'll start to believe it. Once you believe it, you'll find it easier to take the high road and move on to bigger and better things, while this man rots in the hell he created for himself. I know you claim to love him, but when it's really love, you feel happy, a sense of being content, fullfilled...this isn't what you had with him. You may have thought you had that, but in reality it was just another one of his big lies. Move on honey, you'll be glad you did.
2006-09-05 16:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stalker, nice.. go get a restraining order on him.. move, change all phone numbers ect.. get him out of ur life for good, nothing good will ever come out of having a relationship with this type of man.. he messed with the hoodrat cause well shes a hooka lol plain an simple, then she got pg, so he thought he better do right by her and marry her, so here he is married with a child in tow and he's wanting u to still wait for him after how many times u waited just to get nothing in return?????? Hes got issues hun, he wants his cake and eat it too, and as long as he still wants u , he doesnt want anyone to want u.. as if he is obsessed with u.. hes a little boy trapped in a mans body and u need a REAL man that deserves a woman who is as patient as u.. Stay away from him, he's one of these people that will always find trouble, and trouble will always find him, and u dont want to have to deal with that in ur life..
2006-09-05 16:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were with him through thick and thin before. now you left him alone for a change when you found about the pregnancy and marriage, in his eyes, you are still supposed to "be there" for him, no matter what. You allow him to ruin your relationships, I'm assuming because you may still be communicating with him. if he lost touch and track of you, then it would be hard for him to ruin what you have going on unless you live in a small town where everyone knows each other. Otherwise he may be a stalker and you should call the police.
2006-09-05 16:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Skypride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. He's a criminal, without a conscience. Look up the word " Sociopath" in Wikipedia. See if he doesn't fit the description. You've been a fool, and he's manipulated you knowing that he could!
Why? , well, you had something that he wanted, and didn't want to have to pay for and could get from you, free.
Another case of "Baby, Baby, baby", seduction. You bought his line, hook, line and sinker, and he thinks you'll do it again. He knows from experience that it works!
2006-09-05 16:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER...it's clear this man of yours was SCUM hood rat to. A honorable man would not be in/out of jail and bonking the neighborhood hooker. He's a loser move on i almost can't believe you don't see he's a NASTY AS the women you lay with DOGS your gonna get fleas
2006-09-05 16:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both deserve each other. Both of you thrive on drama, if you really wanted him to be gone,he would be. But my guess is both of you are sending mixed messages to each other.And enjoying every minute of it. I hope the other guys are smart enough to kick you to the curb,and not get caught up in this crap you call a relationship.
2006-09-05 16:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men never know what they have when they have it. Men thing they are unstoppable when it comes to being unfaithful even though in reality they are idiots when it comes to hiding that from us and the hood rats don't expect much of nothing from a man not even respect so it's an easy lay all together.
2006-09-05 16:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ray_Ray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all you can learn that love shouldn't be more important than brains. you should have left him long before most of this happened.
get a new job in a new city and move away. get new friends and start over. you are never too old to start again.
2006-09-05 16:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋