What's ur view of "Swinging"?

Question

I'm married w/kids, but always have ben bisexual. Nterested n swinging, but scared bcuz what if my husband likes it 2 the point where he woodn't wanna stop. Or he njoys it more w/the other partner, or even getn an STD, etc. Tell me what is bout Swinging that makes it so popular & where u r(City & State).

Answer 1

You will have a LOT more fun swinging that you husband will. Women rule the swinging world. As a woman you can find a lot more sex partners – male or female – than your husband ever will, and you can be fairly picky about who you sleep with. Your husband, on the other hand, will find that men are a dime a dozen in the swinging world, so he might feel disappointed at some point. He is more likely to get tired of the swinging scene before you do. So the question is more likely to be: Will YOU be willing to stop if he wants to stop? In any case, you will need to work out some rules before you try anything so that you both understand what is acceptable, and what is not. You might just try letting your husband watch while you play with a girlfriend. This is sorta like watching porn, only a 1000 times better, so you husband might just be happy with this. There are a billion more things I could tell you. Feel free to email me if you want to discuss more ideas. My wife and I have been happily swinging for several years. Our screen name gives you some idea of where we live ;-)

Answer 2

i was a swinger for about 7 years. I think it helped my marriage last
"thou we are divorced now"/. I'm bi sexual to. On to the questons : what if my husband likes it 2 the point where he woodn't wanna stop: well i liked it as much as my hubby we usually were in the same room 3 or 4 sums. I had no desire to stop. I still go to swing clubs with my current husband but we only sleep with each other because i'm pregnant we may or may not swing again in the future. question #2 : Or he njoys it more w/the other partner: well you will get enjoyment also most every girl my ex hubby was with i was with her also. #3 or even getn an STD : in all the years i did actively swing NEITHER of us got anything WE ALWAYS always USED PROTECTION and never did oral if we had a cold sore or a cut in the mouth. stds ARE a real risk thou no one can say you'll be SAFE you can do things to make it less risky only swing with people you know use safe sex are not drug users or heavy drinkers never allow penis vagina contact without latex. Anyway it's not 4 everyone you can step lightly into in. Start by going to clubs "if your in ohio there is a great club in Dayton DDSC". Go to clubs watch hang out there is no presure to do anything no one touch you without your concent that's always against club rules. Make a date with another couple or female tell them your new you are not sure how far you want to go people respect that. If at anytime you feel it's not going good tell your hubby any hubby who respects you will back you up.

Answer 3

Swinging is usually do by couples who spend ALOT of time talking about it and making a detailed list if dos and don'ts.

Communication is the key to any relationship.
Make sure your both on the same page.
It really sounds to me, that you want to try a woman. You can do this without swinging.
Be prepared for the worst. If trust is already an issue, your probably not a good candiate for swinging.
I wish you well.
Remember - some fantasies are best left there.

Answer 4

Nobody knows anything. My view of swinging is that if it works for the swingers so be it. Human sexuality is very complex and very specific to the individuals in the relationship. One of the problems of a monogamous marriage is that your sexual growth and development is dependent on what you can do with your spouse. I recommend you find some swingers web sites or forums and look for married couples that have been swinging for a number of years and are still happily married. Leverage their experience. Then think about if you can see your husband and you happy in this situation. Remember, what works best for the two of you is what is important. Not what other people think because ultimately you have to live with your decisions. Good luck.

Answer 5

No thanks.My second fixed me up with her sister when she wanted some other guy.Her sister got pregnant and somehow it was my fault.I still don't know if I was the father though. I wouldn't recommend it myself. To me that isn't a marriage it's an orgy with options and legal ties. Marriage should be a commitment not a business arrangement.

Answer 6

Don't even do that ****. That is a recipe for disaster! Believe me. I have a friend who did that. He was with this girl and she wanted to experiment with another girl. He said that would be fine as long as he could join. Well, they all got it on and he said that it was great at first, but then, weeks later, she started doing it behind his back (just like you are predicting - meaning, if he likes it better with this other person, he will go behind your back if he senses you are getting jealous about it. But he won't think that it is cheating because you guys all did it together at one time.) He found out about it and got really upset. Then, his girlfriend totally tought it was cool to just be with all kinds of girls and guys just because they "swung" that 1 time. Needless to say, my friend said he will NEVER EVER do that again. As erotic as it was, it was not worth it. And he is a FREAK if you know what i mean. So for him to say he wouldn't do that again, really means it bothered him a lot when he found out she was messing around after the Manaz A Twah (sp?)

Answer 7

I have never done it either, but have often thought about it. But then when I look into a mirror I know the reason why. by the way i live in st charles county mo

Answer 8

My personal opinion is swinging is a sin. If you're married you should sleep with only the person you are with. If you're that bored in your marriage, then go to marriage counseling or buy some lingerie and spice it up. Secondly, you have kids and this lifestyle will affect them. They may not be around when you are "swinging" but if you and your marriage becomes strained because of your lifestyle choice, your children will see that.

Answer 9

Regardless of whether you are bisexual or not, you've pledged yourself to someone already. Hetros don't get to have sex with other people after they're married. It's a bad idea to chance your relationship over sex especially if you have kids.

Answer 10

Forgive me for seeming close minded, but I think that's plain wrong. I wouldn't share my bf w/ anybody, and just the thought of him being attracted to somebody else makes my skin crawl. I would have to hurt somebody if they tried to touch him in a sexual way in front of me.