Is getting married a good thing?

Answer 1

If you want it to be. If you want it to be a bad thing or don't want to get married at all, then don't bother.

Answer 2

Well im not saying that getting married is a bad thing but,u have to realize that getting married is a big step to a new life.U have to make this decision right.U have to really know that person likes and dislikes.I'm not saying to marry this person cause she is nice but,marry that person cause u really know that person.When u marry a person that all changes.I mean everything.So think good on that one.Saying is that the 1 u want to spend the rest of ur life with.

Answer 3

I am very idealistic. So given that. Marriage could be the best thing ever. Total trust. You both put the other over yourself. With that kind of partner you will both conquer the world together.

But I think alot of people are sloppy and marry someone while they are still in the infatuation stage of their relationship only to end up with big regrets and lots of emotional baggage.

I've yet to come close, everyone has had deal breaking flaws. Ok, I think I let one winner slip by, my mistake, we were at different stages in our lives at the time.

Answer 4

It was for me. I am very happily married. I feel it is not a good thing if you are getting married just for a certain reason such as pregnancy, ready to leave home, just turned 18 and you can... etc. People dont take marriage seriously anymore. Its to easy to get out.. so why would people give a care if it didnt work out.

Answer 5

I think if its for the right reasons and you two can stand under God and let him guide both of you into a unity in life then sure.. I've been married almost 9yrs. and it's a job until now. I leave the worrying to God, and we just cruise on through. good luck, be happy and blessed.. Its too short here to stress about the small stuff..

Answer 6

getting married can be the most wonderful thing that can happen to two peopleIF, there is trust and honestly. A marriage has to be something that you have wanted and something you are willing to put effort in to make last for years and years to come.

Answer 7

well u have ask yourself do u like her if both of u agree it a good thing if u like her she doesn't like u think twice are u old enough to get marry once u get marry can't play around have fun

Answer 8

Not if your selfish u have to put her needs before yours in a marriage and it's pretty tough I'm married with 2 kids and i put the kids needs first and have a hard time putting his next and so if that comes natural to u for this women then so be it if not your not ready

Answer 9

I think so, providing you have dated long enough and have a good relationship. Marriage is work, but I've been happily married for 23 years.

Answer 10

...only if it's important to you. Probably, if having a wife and having your own family helps to fulfill your your life, then it could be a healthy thing. What you have to think about is if you're willing to give up your freedom of independence to share yourself with someone else. The decisions that you make will not only affect you, but your partner too. You'll always have to be considerate of your other half.

Answer 11

ABSOLUTELY!!! I have been married to my husband for 29 years (I'm 49; he's 51) and we have a blast together. He's my best friend, the one I tell all my secrets to, I trust him implicitly and he feels the same about me. BUT, it was a little bit rough in the beginning. Let me try to explain...

When you are first married, you have two individuals who are now trying to become one. I was set in my ways; he was set in his...I was used to doing everything I wanted to do just like he was. Now there was another person I had to be considerate of and it was hard. I wanted things my way; he wanted things his way. This went on for about two years and there were ups and downs in the marriage. But, then I learned the secret.

I am a Christian--it is not my intent to offend anyone--but during those first few years I wasn't. Through a small bible study group I learned that women should be submissive to their husbands. Oh yeah, I was against that whole idea but things were so bad at home that I thought I'd give this submissiveness thing a try. So, I began practicing submissiveness. Whenever we'd go out to dinner we'd have a fight about where we were going--he wanted to go where he wanted and of course, I had where I wanted to go. Instead of this same routine, I just started letting it be my husband's choice. For every decision where we would ordinarily fight, I'd give in and let him have his way. After a few months, my husband said to me, "What's happened to you? You've changed...we're not fighting anymore. Why not?" And I explained to him what I was doing. That has been nearly 30 years ago and the more I gave in to him, the more he wanted to do what I wanted to do. It's that way today. I can have my way in any decision that's required but of course, I often concede to him so that we can do what he likes, too.

Being married is a wonderful blessing. But you have to be willing to give up all others--be faithful to one person only--and to be willing to bend. Remember, strong trees BEND in strong winds...they have to in order to survive. And don't take advice from outsiders!!! When you marry, it's you and your new spouse. You two are what it's all about. If you let others into you life (your parents, siblings, so-called friends) they will cause trouble--you two have to stand together...back each other up. Trust one another...love one another...always tell the truth...and above all, act like a responsible adult. There are some many people who simply "play" house and don't take anything seriously.

Oh, and if you have children, RAISE THEM YOURSELF! Don't expect the schools to babysit them during the day...talk with them...love them...teach them how to be good, responsible individuals. And if you believe in Jesus Christ--teach your children these very important values. Many parents these days are not that interested in their own children...how sad that is. I imagine God looking down from above and thinking to Himself, "Why don't they care about their own babies? I gave them the gift to reproduce and they don't even consider it a gift..."

Let me get off my soapbox...I wish you well my friend. God bless you and always pray for guidance...you can't go wrong if you Talk to the Man Upstairs! :-)

Blessings!