I need every body's Help!!! PLEASE ANSWER?

Question

I am an 11 year old in need and i need to know what should I do if a tom boy girl is trying to beat me up evryday after school at the bus stop. This is the secound time she does it and luckuly I ran away what should i do.

Answer 1

tell your parents and try to stay within a group so she won't single you out

Answer 2

I would say you need to tell your parents to start with and ask them to speak to teachers in your school. Also if this boy goes to the same school as you the teachers can call his parents in as well.

I do remember this one time that a friend of myne was teasing a girl on the school bus every day, I don't remember exactly what he said or did. Anyway, after a month or so the dad came on to the bus after school and scared the crap out him and a few other people on the bus as well.

You may think that you would be considered a "squeler" if you do say something, but as a guy who has gone through school, uni and now working, i have to say that my school days were the best for many reasons and I know start to feel really bad for the guys that had a rough time at school.

Finally, you are young so it may not really effect your life in the long run, but you do not want somethin like this to ruin your education.

Answer 3

You need to learn Jujistu. Even learning a little bit will help. How do you know you can't win? I used to be the one running as well. In retrospect, I can't believe I was actually afraid of those nasty girls. Looking back I had no reason to be. All I needed was the self confidence. Learn some self defense. I'm not talking flat out picking fights and beating others up for no reason like the looser who has a serious problem at your bus stop, but being able to defend yourself. Learning this builds confidence and self esteem, something that is valuable and precious beyond measure at your age. It's also a fun hobby and good exercise! More than likely she's totally jealous of you. Believe me!
At any rate, hold your head high, and ask your parents to let you take martial arts lessons or some kind of self defense. My husband is a 5 time world champion in a specific martial art, and a Jujitsu instructor. This is good for girls women because it is way more focused on self defense rather than just kickin' booty, and the beauty of it is that it doesnt matter if you are much smaller than your attacker to be effective. It also teaches discipline and confidence. These two are way more key than anything else.
You also should definitely talk to your parents about what is happening. Ask them to help. Definitely talk to someone at school (favorite teacher, counselor, principal, whatever adult you feel most comfortable with). If you are scared of what others think ask that your privacy be respected. They are required by law to respect that, they won't announce it to the whole school. Any of the adults at your school will be able to help. Be persistent. If at first you don't get an answer you like on this subject, bug them until it is resolved! This is how we (as adults) get things like jobs, raises, and believe it or not, nasty co- workers off our case. There is nothing wrong with sticking up for yourself. In fact, it is a very mature quality. Remember you are awesome. I know it because I was in your shoes years back. You have the confidence to ask the entire world for help on this issue, I know you can take care of it by having confidence and asking a teacher or someone you trust at school to help you, tell them you are counting on them, that's a good motivator, it holds them acountable to help you. As well, seek self defense for the future. Good luck, girl! You rock!

Answer 4

I don't know how things are at your school district, but around my neighborhood, the schools have drop boxes for bullying issues. You put your note in the drop box anonymously, and a school counselor reviews the information. If that isn't an option, you need to first talk to your parents, then let them call the principal of the school. Bullying is not to be taken lightly. If this girl is threatening you, she's probably doing it to other kids, too. It's time someone stopped the little delinquent in her tracks, and you may need to be brave enough to be the one to do it.

Please, please, please talk to an adult you trust about this! In the meantime, is there someone else you could stand on the bus stop with? If you aren't alone, I doubt she'd be so quick to threaten you.

Answer 5

If you ever cannot get away from her you need to be brave and face her and right before she reaches you kick her in the crotch harder than you've ever kicked anything before. She will drop like a stone. Failing this find a stone and ditch it at her bullyish face. I know that you mustn't like her very much but she probably has emotional issues and it very likely a complete coward. If you stand up to her then she might back off but be hesitant. She might have problems at home and bashing you up is the way she deals with them. Try to befriend her and the next time she attacks you ask her why and then tell her that if she needs someone to talk to then you will listen.

Answer 6

you have my sympathy-i cannot stand bullies they are all cowards-remember that. while there have been some excellent answers and advice given in the thread sooner or later you are going to have to stand your ground-your mom can't be with you all the time. try enrolling in a martial arts class-its not all about fighting we teach self-discipline and confidence some of my best students over the years came to me because they were being bullied-and they turned out to be excellent fighters and human beings -with not a single thought of revenge toward their antagonists. their training spoke for itself and they were picked on no more. i'm not the worlds biggest guy but the local idiots give me a wide berth-they know they are on a hiding to nothing if they give me a problem. and i had to start somewhere. (which i hope you will too-trust me it will change your life for the better) if you do enrol take your mom or dad with you .ask to see the instructors qualifications -any genuine instructor will have no problem showing these to you along with insurance documents etc. also be wary of any instructor who insists on teaching you without your parents being present-most instructors (myself included) have no problem with parents being present so long as they do not interfere with the class. good luck-and remember the person picking on you is nothing more than a coward. let me know how you get on if you do decide to enrol. its a hard path-but i will offer all the encouragement i can.

Answer 7

just stand up for ur self, and show her that u not to be messed with, if u whoop her one good time and i mean whoop her good she will leave u alone.U GOTTA TO HAVE SOME BACK BONE HONEY CAUSE SHE SHOW' AINT GOT NONE MESSING WIT U, SO JUST LIKE THE OTHERS ANSWERED , OUT SMART HER. MAYBE SHE NOT GET TREATED RIGHT AT HOME OR EVEN WORST , JUST TRY TO GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM, U MAY EVEN HAVE TO BE HER FRIEND IN THE END, BUT TRY THE FIRST APPROACH AND IF THAT DON'T WORK MOVE ON TO THE NEXT.

Answer 8

As others have said: Tell your parents & your teachers. Nothing can be done to correct this behavior if no one is made aware of the situation.

Until corrective action is taken, avoid this bully & do your best to stay out of the line of fire. Avoid confrontation if you can & run if you have to. There is no shame in that & in fact most martial arts teach you to do this. Choose your battles wisely & remember that your mind is your most powerful weapon.

Answer 9

I would tell my parents and let them meet me at the bus stop for a few days.
Your parents can speak up and tell her directly that they want her to knock it off or they will tell the school or her parents.
Or they could probably just give her the look.. One that lets her know that they know what shes up to.

Answer 10

Tell your parents and try to get them to talk to her parents if you know them and then if it doesn't stop, get the police invovlved. Also, if your stop is close to school you might be able to get the school involved too. Be sure to tell everyone you know too. Maybe someone else has had problems with her too. Then all of you can get together with the police and school.

Answer 11

You need to tell an adult that this is happening, either the bus driver, someone at school or your parents.

Bullying is a form of abuse. Stop it before it goes any futher.
Good luck