It's hard for me to compete with sister, it's not my will, but my parents always said that I am not as hard as my sister, my education level is not high, my salary is not high....
Why they always blame on me?
2006-09-05 15:38:35 · 9 answers · asked by Flexscan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My family has that problem ever since it was ever started!This is always big problem to the family.They will compare your relatives with you and you will say later on that why they were not comparing you 2.My Mom compares me with my Nephew(dont know why)My Dad also compares me with my 30 year old sister(we look so much alike im called the junior)It happens it will hurt you but try to ignore it odnt pay attention to it.you shouldnt do something your not good at forcing yourself wont be the answer.You should be happy for what talents and what traits you have.Not everyone in the world can have the chance to get the talents you have.Maybe you could have a talk with your parents and ask them if you dont respect what you have for life
hope this helps you
2006-09-05 15:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eleanor Roosevelt said; No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
So...don't let your parents or your sister define who you are. You can only be the best YOU. You can't now, nor will you EVER be able to become your sister. You can improve your life. Everyone can...but if you decide to take steps to make things better, do it because YOU want to, and not because someone else has defined who they think you should be!
2006-09-05 15:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this feeling. Look the best thing to do is to just do everything ot make yourself happy not them.
I went to the extreme and moved very far away because I was tired of being compared to my sister. I made friends that knew nothing of her and became my own person.
So just do whatever you need to make yourself happy and tell your parents that you are not your sister and never will be and that its about time they accept that like adults that they are. Instead of whining about it.
2006-09-05 15:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister probably is older, therefore fills the classic "Superhero" position in the hierarchy of the family. I have one, too. You come to accept your "place" in the family (mine is perpetual f-up), and you move on from there. You never outgrow your need to be accepted and valued by your family, though, and that's the tough one. Better start becoming enough to yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-05 15:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Helga J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes as parent we do really stupid things and don't realize how much it hurts, because in our eyes we think that it's making you want to strive for more. We all make mistakes just sometimes we need to be told what we are doing wrong. Let them know it hurts you to hear them say what they do and move on, live your life. That's all you really can do.
2006-09-05 15:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Nikie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved to New York. And I avoid family get togethers. I don't like the pain.
2006-09-05 16:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by zelduh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human nature, Dear.
Best thing to do is ignore it.
My folks do the same thing.
I just try to change the subject when it happens . . .
If that doesn't do it for you then you can gather all your gall and just say that is enough, please respect me enough not to do this any more. But I rarely have the cahones to stand up to my folks.
2006-09-05 15:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Abnormal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enlist, and then you can know in your heart you are protecting her.
2006-09-05 15:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by ansem7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every family has this problem. I don't know why they do it.
2006-09-05 15:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋