My boyfriend and I are currently living together, but are not married. If I give our son his last name, are there any legal aspects I should be aware of? I keep picturing this frightening scenerio where his mother, or someone else with his last name, comes and takes him from school. This especially concerns me since his sister has the same first name that I do, and because I do not get along well with his mother. I trust that my boyfriend will be a good father, but I am concerned over custody issues and I am likely to end up being the primary caregiver to the child, possibly moving away within the first year of our sons life, due to my graduation from college. Does anyone know any of the legal aspects involved with having a child with a different last name? Would the scenerio I have pictured be an issue or be more likely with his last name? Any advice in the name dept would be great. My family really wants the baby to have my last name. i just want whatever is best for my son.
2006-09-05 15:31:48 · 9 answers · asked by Megan F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hmm if you think your not going to stay with the dad give the child your last name. your boyfriend can always adopt him when you get married that way you dont have to worry. you shouldnt be worried as your full name with middle name will be on the birth certificate. and if he wont marry you before the kid he shouldnt get to call it his own anyway but thats my opinion
2006-09-05 15:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are legally the childs mother regardless that you have a different last name. There are tons of women out there that have a different last name than their children. I am one of those. IF you're worried about someone else coming to pick up the child at school, i'd make sure the school knew that. Somebody can't come and pick up your child unless they have permission from you, that's illegal, also would be known as kidnapping. It doesn't matter what the childs last name is, you could pick a random last name to give your child. Also, remember if you are planning to move, you have to have permission from the father, especially if it is out of state and there is going to be shared custody of some sorts. (I'm pretty sure about that, I'd look that one up for sure). I'd talk to the boyfriend about the last name, after all it is his child as well. Sometimes people forget the father has rights too. He has rights even if the child doesn't have his last name, and/or his name is not on the birth certificate. Even if you gave the child your last name and then ya'll decided to get married he wouldnt' adopt the child, the child is already his, you'd just have to apply to get the name changed. It would also be in your best interest to put the father on the birth certificate, so that if there were issues with the relationship you can collect child support.
I didn't think twice about giving my son his fathers last name, he wouldl have gotten it whether or not we stayed together. All in all it's just a name. You, the mother and the father both have rights to that child no matter the name!
2006-09-05 15:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to be the primary caregiver and the father doesn't care either way, then by all means give your child your last name.
It is possible that someone could show up at the school and say they are a guardian, and show ID that they have the same last name and gain someone's trust... not legally, but its just office staff and they might be more apt to believe the person.
As far as a legal court battle-- the name would mean nothing-- no more than the father's name on the birth certificate.
2006-09-05 15:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 09:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if while your child is daycare to kindergarten age there is supposed to be a list of people who are allowed to pick your child up from school. If there become any concerns about your child being picked up without tour knowledge let the school know about it.
A good thing about your child having his father's last name is the benefits. Worse case scenario child support and Social Security benefits. In my opinion every child has the right to know where they came from so he should be given the birth right of his father's last name.
2006-09-05 15:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by misste78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you think is best for you and your son. If that means giving him his fathers name then go for it but if you are so concerned about someone taking him from the school just go to the school and tell them that you or someone you trust are the only ones allowed to pick him up and make sure that you specify that anyone picking up your child needs to have a picture I.D. before they can get him.
2006-09-05 15:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the child your last name...your not married to the father...and the court system will recognize him as the father with a "no protest paternity" or with a "paternity test" if he has doubts
2006-09-05 15:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by just2wild4ya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him your last name until your married he should have your last name. I think . Best of luck
2006-09-05 15:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by shaylee b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last name if your not planning on being with the daddy. Otherwise give it his if you plan on marriage. If you arn't sure, go with yours...
2006-09-05 15:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋