My BF says his ex-w wants to inspect the house.His son with her spends a lot of weekends here. I own the house I have already said no.He said at his last apt, not only did she inspect but she was allowed to order everyone who lived there out while she did her inspection. I have never heard of of anything like this.Has anyone experienced anything like this? There is nothing illegal going on at my house, I am just a very private person.
2006-09-05 15:24:36 · 26 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My BF said she previously got a court order saying ahe was going to inspect and everyone had to leave while she inspected. I am thinking there might be more to this than my BF is telling me, he does hang out with some weird people sometimes.
2006-09-05 15:32:08 · update #1
This hasnt actually happened yet at my house, but my BF said she has been telling him she wants to "inspect the hoise"
2006-09-05 15:34:20 · update #2
The ex is a nut ball and, no,you don't have to let her inspect your house.
2006-09-05 15:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, she doesn't have a right. What is her reason for doing so? Does she think her ex-husband has personal property that belongs to her. She would have to prove that and the police would need a search warrant. Is she wanting to see the house because your boyfriend's son spends time there/ That is a reasonable request - but she has no right to order anyone out of the house and be in the house alone. She may have a legitimate concern that the conditions in the house are not good (trash on the floor, dirty dishes, sinks and toilets, dog crap on the floor etc.) If you do not allow her to make this inspection, she may contact the Child Protective Services (CPS) who will send someone out after receiving a complaint. If you don't want to let her in your house, you may find a third party who is agreeable to your boyfriend and ex-spouse to make a walk-though inspection to check on the health and safety conditions of the place. Good luck.
2006-09-05 15:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Coach D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She cannot inspect your house. She can get a court order if there is reason to suspect something is out of order (she'd have to really work on this one to get a judge to allow it) but then the department of child services would be doing the inspection, not her. And you would have every right to be there at the time of inspection. I think your bf is giving you a line and it sounds like you may be better off without him if he's still playing by his ex's rules.
2006-09-09 06:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference between his last situation and this one is that she was inspecting HIS house -- not yours. She has no legal right to come into your home, much less make you leave while she does her "inspection." The bad news is that she may be able to go to court and prevent your BF from seeing his son while he's at your house.
Personally, if she's got a big issue with having her son at your house, I'd call your state's equivalent of Children and Family Services. See if they could do a home inspection and report their findings to the court. Hopefully, their report would be a lot less biased than hers is apt to be.
2006-09-05 15:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, she has no right to be in your house unless you invite her and the way it sounds you won't be inviting her over any time soon. The only way she can have your house inspected is if she files a report with Child Protective Services and they can see what your house looks like when they follow up on the report, but then she can get in trouble for filing a false report if the allegations aren't true. Other than that, if she comes on your property and you don't want her there, ask her to leave. If she doesn't, then call the police and have her removed for trespassing. Good luck!
2006-09-05 16:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way and if you let her you will be setting yourself up to live under her control, via the BF and the Child.
Tell her that it is a ridiculous request and that you will not allow it, she may however come over, while you are home and get a tour from you. (if you care to give her that, which you do not have to do) This woman has control issues and I for one would stand up to her now, even if your Boy Friend does not have the back bone to do it himself.
Is this BF really worth all this crap?
As far as the legal document she says she has- it is bull sh**, ask her to see it. No judge would give anyone the right to go around to any ones house whom she chooses and inspect it while kicking the owner out.
2006-09-05 15:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Angie A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she has no right to kick out your house while she snoops around. the only time anyone should be doing this is someone from child services and you are present for the inspection. or if your boyfriend has some legal matter with visitation of his child and again you would present while a court appointed person did an inspection. not the ex
2006-09-05 15:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by bacawk70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something illegal going on at your house when she is trespassing.
She has no right to order you out of your own house. She must have a screw loose.
If she wants an inspection she can go through social services.
You could get a restraining order.
Next time she comes in and tries to order you out, call the police.
2006-09-05 15:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by GreenHornet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends ex-wife cannot search your house without your permission. What you will have to do though is come to an agreement because if the child is a minor she could refuse to let him go there. She seems very pushy.
What you need to do is lay down the law with this woman. If you dont she will most likely continue to nose around like that. She has no business inspecting your home. She needs to be able to trust the father of her child. If she doesnt, she needs to work that out with him. You have no obligation what-so-ever to let her in your home.
You remember this is America and you have rights. Dont you ever let anyone violate them.
2006-09-05 15:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Midnghtangls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she cannot ... in fact u can demand that she does not enter your house ... if she has a problem she can get a social worker to inspect the house ... but the best thing to do is to invite her in and try to get along ... she sounds exactly like my ex, just doesnt want you around her kid but its ok for her to have a new live-in bf every week ... its bs ... i wouldnt leave the house for nothing ... if she starts somthing with you call the cops ... but dont threaten her ... you need to tell ur bf to control that hoe or i would get out of that truthfully.
2006-09-05 15:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she pay your bills? Is it her house? No you don't have to let anyone in your house if you don't want them there. If your boyfriend letting her rule him and you at the same time? You never mention what kind of relationship you have with her. Do you associate with her? She sounds like a bossy person that might be one of the reason why she is the ex. I would talk to her on neutral ground and ask her exactly what is she looking for? She sounds like she doesn't trust the type of company that your bf associate with.That is YOUR HOUSE. Do your bf pay your rent? I would talk to her and see what is on her mind and give her a piece of your mind but be a lady about it.
2006-09-05 15:39:24 · answer #11 · answered by nanaofthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋