Your man comes home one night. He says I have a surprise for you. You say, Okay bring it on!! In walks this hot looking guy. You're like ok honey, what is the surprise? He's like, I want you to do us both, but I want to watch first. First of all you are straight, as in sober, shocked and don't know if this is a test, to see how faithful you are. What, I need to know honestly, what would you do??????????? This is not for the virgins, this is for real women, with lust in her veins! Go girlfriend, is what my friends say. The shy and goody two shoes need not to apply.
2006-09-05 15:21:25 · 10 answers · asked by One Sly Look 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Well, first off this should have been discussed ahead of time. Anytime a relationship is going to play with polygamy the people in it need to communicate openly and honestly. Hitting your loved one with such a situation is disrespectful. If she isn't comfortable with that, it puts her on the spot. Even if she is, without open HONEST communication, any relationship will break up into fights after a sudden involvement in polygamy.
If it IS a test, it's a bad one. If she jumps on it, he has no right to complain, because he set this up. If he planned it as such, the relationship is doomed. Tests like this are games and relationships that play games never succeed.
Both need to talk about what they are comfortable with and what they aren't. They need to continue talking after it happens, especially if this is a first experience for either person. One should never EVER push the other into actions they aren't comfortable with. Just because it gets one person's juices going doesn't mean the other one will like it as much.
The "third person" will also have to be aware that things are not a usual one on one relationship. He or she will have to be ready and willing to back off at any time when one or more members of the "primary" couple are becomes uncomfortable. He or she is the "extra" brought in just for this one night. The "primary" couple will be trying to continue a relationship after this night.
This is something to think about too. Can the two of you look at this third person later without feelings of jealously? Will there be anger over what happened? These are things you have to think about and talk about before you take this step.
I hope you are comfortable with whatever choice you make,
2006-09-05 15:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well my ex was the type who would look for anything to hold over my head to dominate me with. If he found out about anything I did, even lie, he'd take it upon himself to bring it up everytime I was arguing with him saying things like "Well you did this and that, and I didnt hold it against you then."
I dont know if you're man is like this, but I would be weary. Next time he wants to **** you're best friend/sister, and if you protest, he'll bring this up.
If you dont mind him having sex with someone else aswell, then I'd say go ahead and have fun.
2006-09-06 08:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anria A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I neither shy nor goody two shoes, and I LIKE IT. but if my b/f or husband would bring me a good looking guy home with all the trimmings? I would kick him out from here to eternity, not ever to see his sorry *** again for the rest of my life. What he wants---girl he doesn't love you, he is using you for his sexual fantasies and to me that's the scum of the earth. Even if you consider this
it will end up on a sour note. Before you know it, he wants you to turn tricks.
2006-09-05 22:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Now... Being a virgin I do have one question for you. Do you think that virgins are not capable to feel passion? Do you consider us as imagination and not real women? You yourself was virgin once. Didn't you feel passion. Didn't you feel that you are real.
Blood in my veins is as hot as in yours. But, you specified what type of women should answer your question (no virgins, no shy, not goody) and they would most probably say YES.
2006-09-06 06:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by no one 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take your boyfriend at face value you cant always wonder if things are a test because if it is that's stupid because every situations different and if he is standing there saying this is what he wants how can he say later that it was just a test he brought him to you!
2006-09-06 05:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by blazenredhotmommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never. Kick both the guys, incl my Man in their balls. What the hell they take me for ? lust for me is always with love & commitment. If you defer, change your profession to some escort agency.
2006-09-06 05:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sheetal A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well is this something you want to do? My EX hubby did that to me also then it became that he liked a submissive woman. Becareful. Personal Id rather pick my own partners and no I dont want to have someone watching because it gets their sick *** off. Like I said my Ex!
2006-09-05 22:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't do it . I would be pissed at my man for putting in that position, DAMN!!!!(maybe it was a test or something) Do it, Nooo Don't do it. sorry girlfriend pass that sh** up.
2006-09-05 22:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you would be embarassed or ashamed of later in life. What would your mother say? NOOOOOOOOOOOO
2006-09-06 02:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the idea,then do it. If you don't like the idea,never do it
2006-09-06 04:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋