We broke up several times, and always the same thing happened. Now he seems to be doing right, he loves the kids, is responsible, but I am not in love anymore. I have forgiven him but he is not what I want anymore.
2006-09-05 14:48:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then u don't have much of a marriage anymore. Leave and don't stay for the kids.
2006-09-05 14:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to let him go. What good will it do either of u if u pretend that u r in love? I am not going to say once a cheater always a cheater, but he has hurt u pretty bad or else u wouldn't even consider leaving. Sometimes two people just grow apart, if u feel that u have done everything that u possibly could to save this marriage then maybe it is time to part. Before u do make sure that is what u want, but don't try to please him put u and ur children first.
2006-09-05 21:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing myself about 5 years ago. I stayed with him because of a child, that was the worse thing I could have done. I started not to care any more and started doing what he was doing and 2 wrongs don't make a right. I guess what I'm trying to say is... do what makes you happy. It is not right to show your children that its okay to be in an unhappy relationship. That may play with there minds, especially if they can feel the intense feelings. Children are special they learn from the environment they are raised in. Leaving my ex-husband was the best thing I did for the both, my child and myself. Good luck in what you decide, it's not easy.
2006-09-05 22:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by melissa l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. I am sorry but I think once a cheater always a cheater. I think that you need to just break it off altogether. Obviously there is something that he is not wanting if he has to go to someone else to get it. So why even waste your time with him anymore. You said you two have kids? Well, do you really want your kids around him when he is like that anyways? You could find someone so much better, someone who would treat you right and not cheat. And if you still want the kids to see him, you could schedule weekends for them to go over there, or you can just have him call when he wants to see them. But really, whats the point of hanging around someone who doesnt respect you if you can find someone who will?
2006-09-05 21:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by crzynluv121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks. my fiancee and i just broke up. she had waken up with someone and didn't know if anything had happened, so i had a big trust issue. it was while she was drinking that this had taken place. i didn't want her to drink anymore, not that she drank successively, but one time was enough. well i stayed with her as long as i could. i finally ended up giving her a choice of me or the drinking. if you can't trust someone it's very hard to live with the person. if you have fallen out of love with him, i do believe you can fall back into love, but it's more of a conscience choice than anything. ultimately it's your choice on what you can and can't deal with. for me, im happier, just because im not fretting over if anything is going to happen or not. listen to your heart, that's the best answer your going to get from anyone, not by me or anyone else telling you what you should do. you'll make the right choice
2006-09-05 22:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by KORD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have forgiven him - but you'll never fully trust him again. And besides, once a cheater - always a cheater. You have every right to leave him. And, in most states - because he did cheat on you - you have every right to take everything.
Leave him. Your kids will be happier, if you are.
2006-09-05 22:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinks what's best for you and the kids. I have been in this situation before. We fought most of the time until i realized that it isnt good for the kids' development. So, i left. The kids are happier now knowing their parents love them so much although they dont stay under one roof. But the most important thing, I am much happier than i was.
2006-09-05 21:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine Ird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can only take so much before they are done. If you don't love him then leave him. This whole thing is not good for the children, and they should be able to see you in a healthy and happy relationship.
2006-09-05 21:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Evie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only so much of cheating you can take. I always compare it to a screw. If one continues to strip it,...no matter how perfect the bit is.....no one will be able to screw it in.
He wore you down...and you will never forget the man he was.
I am in your exact situation. I need to leave but the kids are enjoying the "new daddy"
I feel your pain....Get a lawyer and leave....but live close to him so the kids can still have their dad in their life.
2006-09-05 21:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by MrsJR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then leave... Plain and simple don't stay for the kids that's the worst thing you can do you'll just end up arguing and the kids will have to witness it... If you don't love him; leave.
2006-09-05 21:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by SEXI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋