wife is impossible?

Question

I am at my wits end. I have a wife who cannot appreciate anything and is as cold as a dead fish. It does not matter what I do, to list...
I bought her the house she had to have, she begged that she would keep it immaculate, that does not happen. She hated her job.. I bought ehr a restaurant and within 6 months she wanted out of that. I forced her to stay with it for 3.5 years. Wanted to recoup my initial investment. I then bought another restaurant and combined them both so I could get a better selling price. Now she whines she has no money. She contributes absolutely nothing to any of the bills just blows what she makes. Our child has to be in everything under the sun, no cost spared. I am treated as an idiot most of the time and she is always too stressed out for anything. She personally made more money last year than any year before and ended up in debt more than she has ever had before. I need out . I cannot continue to have the life sucked out of me to get nowhere.Help!!!

Answer 1

Your wife is upset and not satisfied with her life right now and needs materoial things to try to satisify her. Which will never happen. She cares way too much about the outside world and what people think. the best advice I can give you is not to give in so easily. SInce she obviously has money management issues, take over all fincial stuff. tell her your kid is not ogin to be in all that stuff unless it is free. Have her chose 1-2 things. ALso put her and you on abudget plan. Dopn't preach to her about this just tell her honey I love you, our finciaces suck and if oyu want money for our kid;'s future then we are going to have to budget. If she disagrees seek a finacial counselor to help you...
good luck

Answer 2

Then why are u being an enabler to her? It's plain and simple: U let her have it her way for too long and now she's stomping around like a child herself because she can't get what she wants. I agree, your wife is selfish, spoiled and immature but u have as much to do with her behavior as she has. U need to start putting your foot down on what u will and won't tolerate because she has mistaken your kindness for being a push over and unless u start standing up for yourself, she will never get it.

People will always treat u the way u allow them to.

Answer 3

Well... Let her know this is what you think. Tell her you need her to contribute, that you are ready to give up. Let her know if you can't get the love and support that you need back from her that if will have to be over. Remember to think about whats best for your child. The child didn't do anything wrong.

Answer 4

My wife is the same way she has 4 dughters that are grown but they awase say give me and im awase giving and my wife is a big gambuler with numbers ive lost my business because of my wife and her daughters now i want out the best thing to do is put monye on the side because Divorce she takes every thing

Answer 5

Tune into Dr. Phil he is doing a wonderful segment on marriage that you both should watch. You have a tough road ahead of you. It isn't going to be easy. You need to do a lot of sole searching to see if deep down you still love her and want to be with her. Then go from there to start fixing how you feel about your marriage

Answer 6

Sounds like you need to help more around the house! And with your kid and do the finacial part too.She needs your support she is under stress ,You need to be more understanding and listen to her.If your needing praise all the time you could have low selfesteem.Its sounds like you want to take it out on her..She is being herself and you need to support her your her husband.Take 5 and make her a nice dinner and give her a bubble bath and you will see a changed woman.And help with the kid too........

Answer 7

if your right hand offends you cut it off. if your left eye deceives you pluck it out. life is to short to spoil unappreciative people. dont waste your time on somthing that cannot meet you halfway. weigh your decissions in life daily and you will see what is meant to benifit you or tear you down. pick your head up and use those blessings you have because everyone is not capable of getting even 1 restaurant. realize, visualize and react. sounds to me like only good fortune stirs you in the face once you put your stumbling block behind you. good luck..

Answer 8

Disappear, move to London, get a job w. accommodation thrown in in a hotel or hostel, be free. You can go years w/out work permits or visas if you work cash in hand. Freeze and lock up as many assets as pos first to leave your options open. Maybe she'll sort herself out w/out you, if not who cares?

Answer 9

sorry to hear that..you do need to get out but keep in mind that you do have a child that did nothing wrong to either of you....meaning dont get nasty in the divorce, dont get taken for all you have but dont be mean about it. houses n stuff you can always replace...your child hating you isnt as easy.

Answer 10

You need help, the both of you, doesn't sounds like she wants to be married, just only wants the benefits.