We really Love each other..and it is love, not lust.weve never had sex, we both agreed to wait till we get married, we have thought about it alot..were both faitfull..i dont even look or think of other girls..and thats hard to do when your a 15 year old male that has rageing hormons (i dunno if i spelt that rite)..anyway..i just want to know if anyone has been in this position before..and what happend..i really do love her..and she really loves me..i cry myself to sleep every nite thinking of her..and once again it is LOVE NOT LUST..please let me know if youve been in this situation before or if you know someone who has and what happend to them
2006-09-05 13:26:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am not doubting AT ALL that you love her, and you very well may end up together, there are many couples who met as high school sweethearts and grow to have great marriages, however you should wait to marry until you are adults. Life changes dramatically after high school, many people change drastically, I know I definitely did and what you each want out of life and out of a life partner may change, you may grow apart. If you ARE meant to be together, than you will be and there should be no rush to get married. You have a long life ahead of you, dont rush to grow up rightnow.
2006-09-05 13:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by wendyb204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At such a young age and little time with your significant other it would probably be in both of your best interests to wait a few years. (Which shouldn't be difficult at all since you too truly Love each other.) I was nineteen, when I got married. A year and a half later I was divorced. I have heard a lot of people say "Oh but we love each other." Well I said the same thing. If you love each other enough to wait until you are both financially stable, you will have a much better chance of making your marriage last. Being together for a year should not make you believe that it will last. Take time to get to know each other better and then decide whats best for you both.
2006-09-05 13:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by kitty kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you been apart? I think it's awesome that you two have such a good relationship, and good for you, being faithful like that is the only way. I got married young,18 and it was a big mistake. I am not saying the two of you won't be together forever, I just learned from my mistakes that marrying at that age really is too young. You both have a lot of changes yet to go through. You need to be a young couple, experiencing life, including the hardships of living on your own, before you live as a married couple. My sister and her husband have been together since they were your age, but they waited until they were older to get married. They are still together now, in their early 30's. I wish you both the absolute best and God bless you. Congratulations on finding love so early in your lives!
2006-09-05 14:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young...you both made a good choice in waiting but maybe this decision of marring is not being rational (it is more emotional)...i know you both love each other, and it's ok, but you are not ready for a marrige, it takes a lot of responsabilities and commitment, there is going to be a lot of trouble that you will not be able to handle becauase you are not mature enough (not economically, intelectually, emotionally and not even phisically). That's why in some countries (don't know in USA) you would need a permission of your parents to marry before you are 18.
If you really love each other that much you should wait at least a couple of years more, once you are that age you will understand why now was not the right time. Take care. God bless
2006-09-05 13:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by fireangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. It won't hurt you to at least get an education first. You just admitted to not being able to spell. That with a working spell check at the computer. Finish school. Then you can think about getting married. There are results from marriage and sex. It is called responsibility. That means that people come after you instead of mom or dad. That means that people want money from you. You cannot legally get a good job at your age. It will be better for you and your future family to wait. Get an education. Know how to provide for your family. Be willing to do a lot of work; because you will do a lot of work.
2006-09-05 14:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I have been in your position before. Only it was when I was 16. He was older. I graduated from high school early (lots of extra studying), so we could get married. He went into the marines so that he could support us. Well, he did not like the marines and got out. We both kind of mutually decided to wait (and we had been going out since I was 12 so this is four years into the relationship). My family liked his, his family liked mine. They were all sure we would get married. I went to college, he started dating a girl who did not have a problem with having sex before marriage, and he ended up a father and married to her. They divorced four years later. I met my husband after college in the Army. Things work out the way they supposed to. If you try to press or rush things it will end up bad for all concerned. I do not regret not marrying my first love, because I now have my true love. I am still good friends with my first love.
Make sure you both have your education, then a job/career that can support you, save up some money for a down payment on a house, and buy a car. When you have completed all of that if you are still madly in love, get married. Best Wishes
2006-09-05 13:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by iamdreama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 15 I thought I had met the love of my life, only... a year later we broke up and I fell in love again with another love of my life,,,, a few years later I had another love of my life and it was not until i was 22 that I met my other half.
When you are that young like you said you have raging hormones and you think that that special person will be forever, but then things change, you are so young and have so much to look forward to, I'd say don't get too passionate about it. Life changes so much and you have not lived at all yet, don't stress over this.
2006-09-05 13:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you two love each other but you are to young if your to young to have sex or if your not ready to have sex and accept the consequences of maybe having a baby then your not ready to get married i thought i loved someone too. We were together for 3 years thought we were ready and we kind of were and i ended up pregnant at age 12!!! and now I'm 13 about to turn 14 with a 18 month year old baby trust me your not ready!!
2006-09-05 13:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im happy for you that you are in love but at 15 you guys can love each other and still have lifes its not good to only think of eachother and cry yourslef to sleep when you cant be togther you both need to have other intresest acadmeics or sports? and friends outside one anther no two people no matter what there age can be completly consummed by one other person its not healthy and dont worry about marriage you have a lot of time for that and if in the end when you have finished school and had some time to live and you still want to get married then go for it but dont rush into anything because you will resent eachother in the end.
2006-09-05 13:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by heather d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the other people...15 is awfully young to decide to get married since you should view that as a permanent thing...til death do you part you know? i'm 19 and my boyfriend lives in London...i haven't seen him in over 6 months and believe me it's hard but you'll get through it. if you truly love each other you can make a long distance relationship work especially if you are waiting to have sex until after you're married (which i appreciate..my boyfriend and i too have decided to wait.) like the old saying goes, 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' and Love endures all things...even distance and seperation. Good luck to you both and i hope the next years of your life only make you more sure that you truly love her and want to spend your lives together.
2006-09-05 13:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by mira t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋