This is long,so I may have to break it down.Hubby 25,I am 23,no kids..together 6 1/2 years,married 3.I work full time,at a minwage job,cuz I havent been able to find anything else.. hubby worked 50 hours a week and makes good money.
My hubby has a bad habit of buying tons of vehicles,that we dont need..then telling me its none of my dam biz,cuz he is paying for it!We have almost no money saved up,and if hhe lost his job,we'd be in a bind,bad!He throws it up that he makes a ton more money.Yet,we live by his parents on their land(supposed to be here 3 months,been here 3 years now)he dont keep any money in a checking acct.anything we have in our acct is my paycheck.He does pay all the bills,except my car and cell bill.I dont know what to do?I have told ask him to save,and begged,w/no avail?Talking doesnt work,he tells me not to worry about it that itsHIS money,he didnt have a deprived childhood..or a poor one.His parents have money in the bank,and arent like this?Ive done all I know to?
2006-09-05 13:20:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He says he wants kids one day,but doesnt understand why I dont want them with how he acts untill he "grows up" he says its me being childish and immature.I recently bought my car,and he raised hell about it...but he had 5 vehicles and a NEW honda shadow 1100!!and owes 20,000 on the bike and a truck....?
2006-09-05 13:22:22 · update #1
Since he pays his stuff should I do like he says and "keep my mouth shut" and bte I didnt put my name on any of his stuff...
2006-09-05 13:23:41 · update #2
Also,he wont see a counc.he says that is we cant solve our own issues..no one can?but yet he wont try and help solve the issues?
2006-09-05 13:27:47 · update #3
Oh lol sorry to keep adding stuff..but I have an accounting degreee and a business degree both!!I just havent had any luck finding anything and we live in a small town..maybe I should move???
2006-09-05 13:30:09 · update #4
You have got to be kidding. Why are you putting yourself thru this hell? Get rid of this poor *** and let some other woman put up with him and his immaturity.
Find yourself someone who supports you and takes care of all your needs. He is not doing it and never will.
Anyone who tells you "its none of your business" is a loser husband and you deserve so much more.
2006-09-05 13:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has to load up on material possesions such as cars etc. he has something missing in his life. Its not because he grew up that way. He has a serious spending problem. If he parents raised him to keep money in the bank and he is not, he has issues. Why does anyone need 5 cars? He can only drive one at a time. Even some celebrities with millions don't have that many cars. Very weird situation.
If he is not interested in counseling, it may be time for you to hit the road and make a life for yourself. He doesn't sound like he wants to work on your marriage.
2006-09-05 21:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start. It isn't HIS money. When you are married, EVERYTHING is owned by both. Hubby is acting like a spoiled, greedy child. A wife shouldn't EVER be reduced to the condition of begging their spouse to act grown up. I doubt your marriage can survive unless hubby boy begins to grow up. You have every right to insist. If he continues, file for divorce. AND get every dime you can. You are correct to no want children with a child- no matter what his age is.
2006-09-05 21:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is he foolish but he also sounds child est. You will probably spend the rest of your married life like this. Go back to school and get you a career so you can make something of your life and if he chooses to live like this then that is him
2006-09-05 20:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if its that bad u need to stash some cash not in the bank but in a secert hiding place tell him after u have saved $$$$$, that he needs to see a marriage counslor and if not u need time alone to think what to do about next
2006-09-05 20:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very important veiwing :sometimes in relationships like yours see of course many do have an habbit in spending money
reduce it in budgeting as a advice because most what any one gets so open account with bank
2006-09-05 20:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jealous person. When you get older you will wish you had dvorced him.
2006-09-05 20:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by tw2251stst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave the boy and find a man.....
2006-09-05 20:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
close everything out
2006-09-05 20:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋