How Can I Make My Religious Fanatic Family, Not Be Homophobic?

Question

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Answer 1

First of all, you can't "make" anyone do anything.
Secondly, why do you want to change your family? You don't want them to change you, right? Think about that. Thirdly, the term "Homophobic" refers to someone who has a FEAR of homosexuals. It is unlikely that they are LITERALLY scared of someone who has a sexual preference, as this is a term that is primarily used to bash anyone who disagrees with homosexuality. Phobias are terms to be used for ACTUAL FEARS, like fear of heights, or fear of snakes, etc. I am willing to bet that your family simply disagrees with homosexuality, and this is not uncommon, as it is a VERY controversial lifestyle that simply defies the laws of nature and the laws of procreation. I'm sure that, like most people who despise the acts and lifestyle of homosexuality, they do not "hate" gays. They simply disagree. And it is OK to disagree, right? Contrary to popular media influence, we CAN still disagree in this country and yet love one another as fellow citizens. However, the media would have us all to believe that anyone who disagrees with our lifestyle also HATES us, and we should FIGHT them. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. So cheer up! Agree to disagree, and let them be themselves, and continue to love them no matter what they say or do - hopefully you can both forget your differences.

Answer 2

Your question is very GENERAL. If your family is truly a Christian family, they should not judge anyone. That is left for God. Truth, which comes only from God, is not dependent on feelings or emotions, or filosophies. Or anything to do with human thought; look at the state of the world and see what we humans are capable of. Homophobia is something invented to justify a behavior, and to be accepted. Just another way of namecalling like children do in order to dare onother into trying something or to feel ok about something that was done but not feel good about it. This is a subject with Eternal consecuences, but with Choices in the Present. A Fanatic is someone that is not well balanced and does not have knowledge to go with the Passion. Guard your Heart, and seek the Truth and when you find it, let Love reign in your heart.

Answer 3

Sweetie, unfortunately you can't "make" anyone do anything. If it were that easy, it would be a miracle....pardon the pun.

The problem with religion isn't so much the pure message behind it, but the fact that it has been rooted in fear and ignorance of the unknown. Until your family is ready to look beneath the myths of the lgbt community, and really see that we are human beings.....they aren't going to change.

I'm guessing you still live at home, and I don't know if you're "out" to them and being harassed, or if you're afraid to come out. If you have yet to come out to them, I would wait until you were ready to move out (being older) or if you have a place you know you can go if they decide to tell you to leave....which, while it hurts and is terrible, is a possibility.

Also, don't think that you have to turn your back on your religion either. You can believe, just know that the higher power is love, and does not condemn you for feeling the things you do. They will try and tell you differently, but it is not the case.

I advise you to hook up with a PFLAG organization (parents and friends of lesbians and gays) Is there a gay/straight alliance at school? Can you talk to your school counselor?

Best of luck, and know you can always come here to talk and work things out.

Also, check out this website. It might help you more than you realize. www.godmademegay.com

Answer 4

Intention and visualization - that is the only chance you have to affect a change in another person. Sit quietly for 3- 5 mins at a time and visualize in your mind first you father, say. See him happy and loving - with his arm around you - and see yourself happy and at peace, there next to him.

Do this with each member of your family - maybe on their own and then next to you. Then see yourself, happy and strong, knowing that your family loves and supports you. It doesn't take long and I do mine at bed time and before i get up in the morning and any other time that I have a few minutes (in the car while someone else is driving, while in the shower, etc.)

The more vividly you can see these images in your mind and the more often you can do it, the better. What you are doing is showing the universe what you want. People often don't realize that the universe simply sends what we think about (good or bad) and the universe loves clear communication. Akin to praying, this is a very powerful thing and you could see result very quickly (if you are committed to making this happen). Believe it, then Live it! You can do it!

Peace!

Answer 5

Religious fanatic tend to follow the false prophets and cannot understand the admonition to love on another and reserve judgement till they are judged. They need to be reminded about the passgaes of what happens to the self righteous. Being gay is not a sin.

Answer 6

Well like everyone else has said.You can't make anyone be or do something they aren't or go against what they've been taught and have accepted as truth for a long period of time.But.if your family is what you say "homophobic" then this is actually a form of fear. Fear to a christian is like a cancer causing agent to the spiritual walk with God.Ask them to do a study on fear in the bible and then tell them that they have made you feel as though they actually have fear of you.Tell them you've heard that fear in there lives can contaminate there faith and without faith no man can please God.If they're for real there attitude toward you has got to change.

Answer 7

I'm not religious, in fact I am anti religion!
I am homophobic, I see no reason to apologise for that!
Why do gays always assume its just religious folk that are against them??
The very word 'homophobic' was designed by gays to imply that anti gays are in the wrong!! or at least should be looked upon as 'politically incorrect'!
I can remember the time when homosexuality was made 'legal' in the UK! a friend told me he didn't object to that but was worried in case it was going to be made mandatory!!
There is nothing wrong in believing that the sexual acts committed by same sex partners is abhorrent, (nothing to do with religion at all)!!
Just imagining the homosexual act is enough to put normal people off sex for life!! The sight of two fellers walking along the sidewalk holding hands is possibly the most 'sick making' scene to behold!! Not far off is the sight of a couple of females, one with crew cut hair and muscles, holding on protectively to a 'female' type woman!
Homos are weirdo's, simple as that!! And so are religious fanatics!! of all denominations!!
Hope this helps?? (Probably not)??

Answer 8

You can't make them not be homophobic any more they can make you be something that you are not. Try and celebrate the differences between you and learn to love them unconditionally even though it may be tough at time. See, I KNOW God made me gay. and here is my reasoning and this scientific proof can not be disputed! Scientist have proven that our sexuality is genetic. And if it is genetic and I am a Child of God, which I KNOW I am then my God created me the way I am. I also know that my God does not create junk; therefore, I am absolutely, positively, unequivocally, perfect just the way I am. My pastor knows it, my friends know it and so do I! BTW I am 54 and came out in 1979 while serving aboard the U.S. Navy's USS Waddell, DDG-2 That was a rough coming out party LOL.

God Bless!

Answer 9

The truth is if they are really fanatics, no you can't. You can learn a lot and be able to talk with them, if they will discuss it calmly, but if they are truly ingrained right-wingers, I don't know how you change them.

I'll give you a couple of sites from which you can find some resources.

Answer 10

Hey just dont shove your sexuality down their throats, your family will come to grips with it in their own time, give them the time they need. Love them and let them know u are still u , that nothing about u h as changed and that the only thing different is your life in the bedroom which is none of their concern. Above all, stay steadfast in being who u are. do not change for anybody.