My friend was in a variety show in fourth grade... and her pants fell down and kids are still teasing her and she is in 7th grade. She is miserable now. She has tried suicide, drugs, she just wishes she could die! Any suggestions to help her deal with it? F.Y.I. She is horrible at making friends and she is an outcast.
2006-09-05 13:00:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She cant get over herself.....she is always afraid some one is going to bring it up.... she shouldn't have to live in fear but she does. She goes home crying every one calls her ugly. They are horrible to her.
2006-09-05 13:16:48 · update #1
I try my best to stick up for her but it's hard because she is not in any of my classes.
2006-09-05 13:17:49 · update #2
well the problem aint with her just the stupid ppl... she has u doesent she?... or maybe that is u u just dident want 2 admit it... there is no reason they should be laffing at her.... if u have any questions or any thing like that just IM me. my yahoo screen name is coffee_guy_282
2006-09-05 13:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the most embarrassing things that happen to us that make the best stories later on (though they're the worst thing ever, right after they happen). This happened THREE YEARS AGO. It's time for her to get over it and start making jokes about it. Because, let's face it, pants falling down in a show really is a classically funny thing. The trick is to learn to enjoy the humor in the embarrassing things that happen to ourselves. If someone brings it up she should say "Yes, but if you recall, I won the contest; you're just jealous you didn't think of that."
My mom once gave herself a black eye (she slammed the refrigerator door on her head, if you can believe that - it's true!). For the first couple days she was too embarrassed to leave the house, but then she said the hell with it and told anyone who asked that it was Dad's anniversary gift to her.
People will only tease your friend as long as she obliges them by crying and carrying on about it. Once she starts having fun with it they'll stop.
2006-09-05 20:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Steve H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize how long ago this happened, and put it behind her. I know the other kids are STILL teasing her, but if she wants this to stop...she can't let them see that they're hurting her when they do that. If she does, they'll keep doing it. Suicide and drugs are a bit much if you're saying that this, and shyness are her only issues. EVERY KID in the school has done something embarassing and stupid. The only difference between her and them, is who knows about it.
Can't she tell her parents about this, and how much it's upsetting her? She can go to the school councelors. If she wants help, she HAS to take this under control. SHE has to make the choice to make it better. She can do it! I'm sure she's much stronger than she thinks she is.
2006-09-05 20:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, she is very lucky to have a friend like you!! Kids that can't get over something that happend 3 years ago really are not worth her time. She needs to know that things will get better as you both get older. She is so young and if she kills herself because of those losers then it is like telling them that they have one. I can't understand why kids are still making fun of her it wasn't even that bad what happend to her. i HAVE BEEN DE-PANTS BEFORCE IN THE MIDDLE OF CLASS IN LIKE 8TH GRADE. But i'm in 12th grade now and everything is okay i', just maybe you should introduce her to some of your friends and things will go smoothley from there , goodluck!!
2006-09-05 20:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by sarahmarathon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one girl that was in my grade, she got caught playing with herself in a theater on a class trip by one of her class mates. Her classmate told our whole grade. She got made fun of and then her brothers and his friends would make fun of her. That lasted for a while but she just started ignoring them. Learned to laugh at herself and she became friends with alot people she was a lil popular in 8th grade then all threw high school she was pretty popular. Tell her to ignore it, learn to laugh at herself. If she ignores it how will she expect people to see who she is. Learn to like her then one day have alot friends and boyfriends and be really wonderful.
2006-09-05 20:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by nice_n_sweet003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez, people are not over for what happened three freakin' years ago? i mean.. it was a school thing.. why would people make fun of her for that. i wonder--what if those people were in your friend's shoes & were made fun of...how the heck would they feel? well she could try not caring about it & not be self-conscious about it. if she's not that kind of person to not really care what other people think, maybe she could transfer to a different school? i only hope for the best for your friend.
2006-09-05 20:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by KN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about what happened to her. tell her to turn on a deaf ear and not to take the teasings too hard. but anyways take her to see a doctor since she tried suicide.you can be a good friend by giving her emotional support to show that you care and that she has a friend in you.
2006-09-05 20:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by listlessbutdiligent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some serious help and support. Even if her sorrows began with the kid's show, they have gotten much deeper by now. Don't hesitate to help her find the help she needs. And start with you as one person she can trust and talk to. Love her. She needs it badly.
2006-09-05 20:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever one goes through a rough time just stick by her side
P.S. im not laughing thats sad that there still teasing her im come on do they not have nothing else to do
2006-09-05 20:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by jakob d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep sticking up for her and have your friends help as well. She needs to get over her complex and freinds will help her do that. Just do what you can, and do what you feel is right.
2006-09-05 20:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by k dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋