Should I confront my mother in law that is the question. The circumstances are this: My husband won't stand up for me when it comes to his mother. She walks on water even though she is barely sober at any given time. The issue I have is recently my husband's ex girlfriend got a divorce and this woman and my MILFH have stayed sickeningly close for the past 13 years that my husband and I have been together. Recently I have found out through a third party that my MILFH wants my husband to divorce me because I am bi polar and take our 5 year old daughter and the house from me and marry this woman from his past. My husband has no feelings for this woman and swears he would never leave me but I feel he needs to confront his mother regarding her behavior. She is a bartender and from what I heard , our marriage and my illness is all she talks about to the people who are members of the club that she works for. I have to face these people when we visit her. Should I just confront her ?
2006-09-05 12:58:53 · 3 answers · asked by Nancy M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would want to confront her too. She sounds like a real winner. But I really don't think that it will solve anything. She'll probably get worse if you do confront her. Put out a hit on her!! Good luck.
2006-09-05 13:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by mistymeadoww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change a person's behavior. I think that by confronting her about it will only give her more ammo to use against you. Those of your family and friends know the truth. Those that don't and believe her, well, they can just kiss your ***. Sooner or later her rumors will bite her in the ***.
If she's saying false things or slanderous things about you, and you got proof (physical proof), then you might be able to sue her for slander. Otherwise, you might be able to sue for harassment.
I wouldn't advise a lawsuit because it's a very touchy situation.
I understand what your going through. My ex-mother-in-law was doing the same thing to me. And she's still doing it. But she's getting caught in her ramblings so I guess she's gonna learn from it.
All I can say is to try to tell your husband and convince him that it's hurting this relationship. Blood is thicker than water so don't expect him to stand up to his mother. Worst come to worst, if she shows up intoxicated and starts rambling on and on, call the cops and press charges of disturbing the peace. Good Luck.
2006-09-05 22:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving your MIL something to talk about (your marriage & your illness), she seems to know too much of your business. I'm the type that would probably want to confront her, but I think for you it will only make matters worst. I think your husband should have a talk with his mother.
2006-09-05 20:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Stillplayinggames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋