neither of my kids god parenst are very good at keeping in touch, for me its not the religouse aspect, but the ethics of friendship.. when my elder son died, one set of god parenst just dropped off the face of the earth.. some times it would be nice to share some of those special memories with them, even after 17 years.. and i do send cards at xmas, birthdays etc..
2006-09-05 12:43:22 · 6 answers · asked by dianafpacker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes, love, we make people so uncomfortable with our natural grief that some of them just don't know what to say for fear of saying the wrong thing, so they say nothing or avoid you.
Try sending a "happy families" photo with the next xmas/b'day card. It might give them the message that you are ready to talk about it.
Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When me and my husband got divorced all six god parents vanished. I don't consider them to be friends of mine no more. They kept in touch with my ex, but never even asked how the kids were, or asked me if I needed help with babysitting etc. My kids are grown now, and I regularly have my god children around for tea, or over at weekends so that their parents get some time alone. That's how I see a god parent.
2006-09-05 12:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by daria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What could they say,do.How could they feel less awkward around you,how can they heal the needs that you have.
It is very hard to continue in a position where they feel they have no right to be,and know not what they could say or do,with out being upset or upsetting you.
Each handle these things in the best way they believe is right and best for everybody,as they are not mind readers to know what the answers are.
2006-09-05 12:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How very sad. And I get what you are saying 100%. Perhaps it is to do with whether they were extremely close; sometimes people who are devastated by the loss of someone they cherish; act in unreal ways; that they cannot deal with their own feelings, and shut out contact. I hope this may ease the burden of how you feel. I am also going to suggest that you could reach out, and send them a `thinking of you' card, and see if they respond. Good luck with your efforts to get this sorted.
2006-09-05 12:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the reason could be that the potential god parents were not so close to the parents of the godchild..in the real world god parents are supposed to be role models and mentors, they should form an integral part of the childs family.next time look well/pray before you pick god parents..best of luck and God bless
2006-09-05 12:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Covenant Family Network Intl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is the life cycle of a human being once old age comes then they die because we could all be forever young but god made us that way.
2006-09-05 12:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋