I was asked today to marry a coworker of mine who is a legal immigrant seeking permanent residency. While he made it perfectly clear that this would not at all be a romantic arrangement, I still have many reservations on the grounds that I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly. I feel as if this would completely kill any chances of ever marrying someone I love, even though my boyfriend has no intentions to ever get married. Where does that leave me?
2006-09-05 12:37:30 · 8 answers · asked by Celestian Vega 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You are the only one who can answer this, because it really depends on how YOU view marriage. If you see marriage as a special, romantic and tender agreement between two people who are in love, then I don't think you should do it. If you see it as something that starts in love, but can shift and then be ended in divorce when necessary, then you might be okay with it.
I guess you should ask yourself this- if a man asked you to marry him and he had married in this situation in the past, how would you feel? Would you doubt his perception to marriage, his committment, how seriously he took your relationship? If you would have those thoughts, don't do it. If you wouldn't, you'll probably end up with someone who thinks and feels the same as you, and you'd be okay.
2006-09-05 12:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT!!!! Let him figure out how to be a resident the legal way! Not to get married, you have to prove that you are married to him somehow, I watched a show on it one time and there was a bunch of things you have to do. DO NOT DO IT!!!!!!!
2006-09-05 12:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it... my sister in law did the same, and she is miserable. Besides, there is no need to settle. If you want to get married and boyfreind doesn't, there ARE other fish in the sea (and I do not mean fish looking for residency). Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That type of marriage is actually not legal. You can't marry someone just so they can stay in the country. Even if you could, it's not YOUR problem, it's HIS.
2006-09-05 12:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could leave you in big trouble with INS if they found out. You would actually have to live with him and get to know him for this to work.
2006-09-05 12:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What price your dignity? Don't ever do anything you don't want to do. This will haunt you for your life if it bothers you now.
2006-09-05 12:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it... ONLY marry for love...!!! How could you even consider this...?
2006-09-05 12:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋