k! i got this problem! i was with this guy for about 5 months. and we broke up for the summer just to take alil brake of each other. so when sckool came we started talking again. ok 3 days past and i call him and he sayz" ya some one told me that you broke uo with me for some one else!!" and i told him that it wasnt true!! cus it wasnt!! and he said " well i dont really care no more cus i have a gurl friend anywayz." and his girl friend is one of my good friends. i cant stand looking at them together it hurts me bad!! and it always catches ma eye when they kiss and stuff!! i dont kno what to do!! help me out here please!!!
2006-09-05 12:35:15 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
serious answer? get over it. sorry. that is the cold hard truth... but if you look anything like your avatar, you should have no problem finding someone else...
2006-09-05 12:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad. Breaks and other fancy relationship stuff can backfire. I would bet that it was your "good friend" who told him that lie because she wanted him for herself (and with you 2 not really talking all summer you were not there to clarify or defend yourself, but he has had all summer to be upset at your betrayal - as he understood it).
Both relationships are of course over (unless you could somehow convince him that he was played by your friend - though he may not be able to get his feelings for you back in any event).
Steal yourself and ignore it. The more you can do that, the faster the ordeal will be over. I can also recommend intentioning and visualizing to improve your situation. Try to imagine yourself, in your mind, happy and surrounded by real friends and a great guy. You don't have to see everyone's face in detail, just intention the overall situation. If you can do this for about 3-5 mins 2 or 3 times a day you should feel better in about a week - particularly if you can see yourself happy very very vividly. I try to do my visualizing in bed - as I am falling asleep and waking up - and in the shower or while someone else is driving. It's a great way to feel better and actually improve the situation at the same time.
Peace!
2006-09-05 12:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that he just said that because he is the one with someone else and not you and he wants to throw the blame at you when really it was him! You deserve better than that and there are allot of fish out in the sea and guess what there will be one just for you! So just act as if nothing is bothering you and go about your days as usual. Pay them no attention you sound very young and you have your whole life ahead of you so don't let this bring you down! Have a great school year and remember keep smiling like nothing is going on! Now as for your friend if she really was a friend she would not have done that to you! You have true friends out there and shes not one of them! So just be happy and enjoy life and don't let this bring you down! Good Luck and always remember a true friend would not do this to you! Smile always smile!
2006-09-05 12:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! That sounds like it hurts-I'm sorry that happened. Look, this guy doesn't sound like he's into you, if he was, he wouldn't have gotten a new girlfriend so quickly, and he would have asked you personally if you broke up with him before he got a new girlfriend. And the fact that he didn't makes him a not very nice guy. You deserve better, and you'll find better eventually. So, my advice is to just move on. And this friend of yours, keep, because this probably had nothing to do with her. Ignore the couple for now. You'll get over it.
2006-09-05 12:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by akhaiyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of a few things happened. Either he just wanted an excuse to break up with you and used this "someone told me" to do it, or perhaps he really did believe a story that someone told him. Just find a new boy, this one obviously doesn't care about you and why would you care about someone who is obviously so flippant about you? I assume he had other girlfriends over the summer and only used this "break" in order to get free of monogamy. You are better off finding a new flavor of the month.
Either way, I think you should be concentrating on schoolwork instead of boys judging from your grammar.
2006-09-05 12:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a boyfriend,enough with all this "take a break" crap,you should have worked things out if the two of had problems or just broke up.Now he's moved on and NOW you say your hurt because of it.You should have known something like this could have happened.Might as well move on cause you lost out.
2006-09-05 13:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it may be true that you didnt break up with him for someone else, he is ready to move on at this point and already has someone new in his life. This so called "good friend" appears to be wanting to hurt you if she knows how you feel, yet makes kissing displays in your presence. I am sorry for your pain; this isnt easy, but each day will get a bit better...you'll see...try steering clear of them so that you dont have to put yourself in a hurtful situation. Good luck!
2006-09-05 13:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut them both out of your life. It is already painful. It is a lesson to be learned in life. You never go after a friends bf/gf. It is the rule. You'll find someone, you are young yet. Life has many more things to throw at you. This will seem silly by the time you get older.
2006-09-05 12:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. It's kind of silly to break up with someone for the summer... was that so you both could see other people and it wouldn't be cheating? Secondly, I don't know how old you are (I'm going to assume high school, jr high), but people your age tend to recycle boyfriends and girlfriends. It sucks right now, but this is part of life... trust me, he won't be that hard to get over. You will find someone else.
2006-09-05 12:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had to take a break from each other... then maybe the relationship wasn't all that your makin' it out to be. I think that maybe he had this in mind, anyway... but tried to put the blame on you by maybe making up something that was completely false, to cover his own guilt. The best thing to do is to find someone new and "show him" that you have moved on. You'll feel better in 2 different ways.
2006-09-05 12:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's into someone else and you need to move on and do the same. Unfortunately, most guys aren't as serious minded/emotional as girls at this age. Stay away from them and find another guy you find interesting or find activities after school that you enjoy alot! Life's too short and that's the truth!
2006-09-05 12:39:16 · answer #11 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋