In a domination/submission lifestyle relationship when the Dom collar's his sub is it the same as a marriage in a vanilla relationsip or engagement?
2006-09-05 12:26:44 · 5 answers · asked by wonderingmind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good question. The simple answer is that they are not the same. Collaring, in my view, is more than an engagement, but not the same as a marriage.
The thing with marriage is that it is something that is recognised by an external authority, such as a church or the government. That is, there is something of a contract that the husband and wife (in most cases) makes with a larger part of society. This is why governments bestow certain privileges on married couples and churches recognise certain rituals for married partners.
Collaring, while an important part of the lifestyle community and is respected by most, simply does not have the same status. There's no lifestyle authority that bestows equivalent privileges to this particular relationship. It's done on an individual basis.
However, it does go beyond the basic idea of engagement in that engagement is designed to be temporary, while collaring is meant to be a more permanent situation. The commitment of Dominant and submissive is stronger than it is in an engagement.
In short, collaring is not meant to be a substitute for marriage, but it can run parallel, and it can be as strong as a committed relationship of any kind.
2006-09-06 16:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the term "vanilla" will not cover D/s couples, no matter the genders involved. My husband(male sub) and I(Dom Female) are full time game on, so your assumption that the male tops the Female is incorrect and a terrible stereotype of hetero bondage and dominance/submissive agreements.
2006-09-05 12:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...SUBMISSION IS A GIFY GIVEN TO AN ALPHA OR DOM (MME)...SOMETIMES EVEN COLLARED MARRIAGES DONT WORK AND THE SUB IS RELEASED, OR THE DOM IS LEFT BEHIND.
A VANILLA RELATIONSHIP IS JUST AS IT SOUNDS, HOWEVER MANY DOM/SUBS HAVE PLEDGED THEIR LOYALTIES TO EACH OTHER AND STILL LIVE A COMPLETE LIFESTYLE...WITH BENEFITS
2006-09-05 12:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by XHIBIT_A_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, a "vanilla" relationship means it's boring and plain
a dom/sub relationship indicates something quite different
2006-09-05 12:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collaring Your Sub
2017-02-28 04:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋