My boyfriend of a year and a half is eleven years older than me. i have two kids, he has none. I am divorced, he has never been married. What are the chances of a happily ever after for us? He says he wants to be with me forever. Is this for real?
2006-09-05 12:26:16 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry I am unable to tell you how your relationship will last or not. Needless to say this is something that you will ultimately will need to find out on your own. I am not a fotune teller and I really don't know your boyfriend or you for that matter.
What I do know is, does he make you happy? Does he love you and your children? Does he treat them with love, dignity, respect and give them a positive outlook? Do you love him? If you are saying yes, then continue forward with your relationship and see what happens.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-05 12:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my current husband is 13 years older than me. he is the nicest man ever. the only thing which troubles me and doesn't let me sleep at night is the age difference - in the future i will be 50 and he will be 63. a woman in her 50 is still a nice woman if she takes care of herself and does plastic sergery from time to time. a man at 63 is probably a wrinkled impotent not mentioning men die earlier(it's a proven fact by now). so this is the only thing which i can see can be a problem. otherwise i know by my own experience that older men re much much better - they re more mature. wealthier and intelligent and caring. and he is for real im sure in your case. u just probably had been meeting your equals in age. that's why nice, caring man seems not real
2006-09-05 19:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question shows you have some doubts: is there are good reason for your current feelings? If there are - I suggest you have a heart to heart talk with him; and work through it together. I cannot answer really as to how this will work out; but only the two of you are really able to handle this; and if you are both in the same mind; then I wish you every success with a happy life together!
2006-09-05 12:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't it work, hes seem to be a very mature sort of guy,you have been together for over a year, and it all seemed good, so why are you doubting your relationship, is it because you have already had one marriage and one divorce, you might be feeling a little insecure. if this is what you want, then its up to the two of yous to make it work. good luck hope that everything works out well.
2006-09-09 12:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a special kind of man to raise another mans kids. How is he with your kids? Does he give them that special attention like a dad would? If so, then there may be a chance. Otherwise, this would be a lot in such a short time for someone who is inexperienced with marriage and kids. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does'nt. Give it time to see how he does in the dating with kids scene.
2006-09-05 12:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It''s sounds wonderful! Are you just wondering or do you have a reason for a concern. Age doesn't always cause problems. Your chances of living happy ever after are up to the two of you!
2006-09-05 12:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a year and a half and you will know about him more than any of us here. I do believe it a good chance of working out. Why do you put such a question? he is old enough to understand himself and you are is well. And you will never know until you try to build it up together
2006-09-05 12:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work out. you shouldn't go into it thinking that he is better than you because he didn't make the same life decisions that you made. He may be someone that never wanted to have his own children, but doesn't mind helping to raise others. There is also the possibility that he cannot produce children and would prefer someone that has children to fill the void.
2006-09-05 12:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by erotic_songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are committed to each other, to growing emotionally together, working out your differences, accepting each other's individuality, not harbouring grudges, then there is no reason for it not to work. As long as he can accept your children are part of you and therefore need a similar amount of care and nurturing that he gives you then why not. Only time will tell.
2006-09-05 12:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say yes. Communication is always the key to any successful relationship. Time for each other, alone, is essential. This will build trust and love that can possibly stand the test of time.
2006-09-05 12:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋