yesterday me and my best friends boyfriend got into a big *** fight! and he told her until she got rid of me... he wasnt coming back... my friend chose him so now what do i do? he lies to her about everything and that was what our fight was about? i dont want to sit around and watch her get hurt by someone who is only with her for a free piece of *** and a place to stay, free food and a job? im stuck now without her and we have been friends longer than they have been together... im so confused!
2006-09-05 12:17:14 · 31 answers · asked by boicarazi12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okey, Good question.One thing i learned about boyfriends of girl friends is that the guys don't like the close friends of their women...especially if they think that that girl respects and loves her friend and the friend has some level of influence on her[.Not all guys but the jerks.]So when they are going to mess up ur friend and they know they dont deserve that girl, they try to break them up...and most often they do.. they sweep the girl off her feet and appear like an angle and decive her...while they feed her a lot of crap about u and we girls believe it...cause when u are in love u let some guy mess with ur head.
What can u do?Okey this is what u can do and i m telling u this cause i have been in that situation several times.Try to be her friend...Never bring him up, dont discuss him even if he annoyes u.If she wants to talk about him,be there and listen but try not to make negative remarks...With regard to advising her about it..i thik u have tried and that is all u can do..so just try to be there for her and hope that she won't be hurt bad
2006-09-05 12:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him ruin her life, then, she'll get it. Now, you cannot do much because of her hormonal chemistry with him.
Don't take it personally; just be patient. You can send her a cute hello kitty "i'm sorry for being such a hello kitty" and you'll at least let her know that you didn't mean to be so mean and that you care for her as a friend.
Do that and then wait. In the meantime, find yourself a guy and make yourself useful. I don't want you sitting around sucking on fruit pies and Rocky Road. You have to stay fit and cute. Otherwise, you will turn into an old bitter bar maid who thinks all guys are whooping cough germs.
2006-09-05 12:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look deeper into this boyfriend of hers....are you sure he's as bad as he seems? Be careful not to judge too quickly. But it does seem that this guy is a douchebag if he made her choose between him and you. So if you are right....then confront your friend. Tell her how you feel.
Man....that's a though situation. Hang in there!
2016-05-05 11:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Julia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of direction no longer. I were interior an same sitituation for over 10 years! and that i'm no longer with him now. i love him more effective than the different guy that I were with.that is to not overdue to be freinds again in case you both can basically be friends except you want to waste a good type of a even as on b.s. And basically bear in mind you broke up for a reason basically bear in mind that.
2016-12-06 11:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well; unfortunately people change. There's not much you can do about it, since she made her choice. The harder you push or keep egging on this the more distance it will create between you and your friend. Just let it go for a while and cool off first. After that; if you still want the friendship you can try to talk about the situation if you still feel uncomfortable about it.
2006-09-05 12:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ankhesenamun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from her if that's what she wants. Obviously she wasn't your friend or she would have figured something out to still keep your relationship and continue to see him. Sometimes you need to let your so called friend have her freedom with her boyfriend. Being a third party never works. Also if she likes a guy that treats her the way you said he does then she deserves it. She is not your responsibility to worry about! Find yourself a male friend to hang with it will be good for you!
2006-09-05 12:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you're being put through something so horrible. Just imagine what your best friend is going through. He has probably ruined her self esteem and made her feel so small time after time. Please remember that she's not her normal self now. If you're really her friend you can tell her that you love her, but that you will not stay around while she is destroying herself in this awful relationship. She'll come around sooner or later, just give her time. Don't throw away years of friendship....remember ...boys come and go, but best friends last a life time. Hang in there, sweetie..I know you're in pain, but things will get better.
2006-09-05 12:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by jealous of the moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you've been shunned, excluded. Sometimes it happens and you will have to move on without her but if she comes to you either because she left him or because she just wants to touch base with you, I would welcome her. I wouldn't say, I told you so, cause she will already understand that it doesn't have to be either/or. That's a mind (measurable) thing. Your caring is a heart/feeling (unmeasurable) thing. Also, she may need a mate relationship more than a friendship everytime. Some people can't manage both. Sorry, but you can or think you can.
2006-09-05 12:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion she shouldn't be choosing a guy over a friend.
True friends are there for you in good times and bad times, but a guy, especially one who lies all the time, don't deserve the treatment she's giving him.
Let her find out on her own. But first tell her how you feel, if she doesn't listen, just wait for her to commit her own mistake. I guarantee you when she dumps him or leaves him she'll be crying on your shoulder. She'll recognize that you were right all along. Use that time to tell her to never choose a guy over a true friend.
2006-09-05 12:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by zebo007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She will find out on her own what a jackass he is. Unfortunately he told her to pick, and she chose him. If you value her friendship, give her some time before you approach her again, chances are she is going to need your friendship. She sounds like she is boy dumb.
2006-09-05 12:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋