I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks on may 8, 2006. It has been over a year and for whatever reason right now I am having a really hard time. I am wondering what some of you have done to help yourself grieve and be abel to move on.
2006-09-05 12:01:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
After my last Dr. appointment we found out that pregnancy would be to risky for both me and the baby. We have decided that we should knownly bring a child into the world knowing that it could have major problems because of me. And my husband does not want to loose me in death.
2006-09-05 12:30:39 · update #1
I too have had a miscarriage - 4 of them - one was with twins. Each time I experienced a different emotion - from sadness to downright anger, even angry at God. I appreciate what everyone else is saying about getting pregnant again and how that helps .. certainly it does. I now have a healthy 2 year old son and another son due in 5 weeks. But it sounds to me like if it is too dangerous for you to get pregnant again, then hearing all these stories of successful pregnancies can't be very helpful. You have every right to grieve, and for as long as you want. The truth though is that it isn't going to help you very much. If having a child is what you truly want and what you feel will make you and your husband happy then maybe it's time to explore other options - like adoption. I know it has its risks too but so does being pregnant as you well know. I'm so sorry for you but one thing I learned is that time really does heal.
2006-09-05 12:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by she 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 misscarages in 2004. I went threw it really bad. I got really depressed and didn't want to do anything. I gained all kinds of weight because I was so depressed. I have finally kinda gotten more over it, cause now I am pregnant again and this pregnancy has gone way farther then the last 2. But to tell you the truth I don't think you can get over it at all. My bestfriend just had a misscarage and my advice was to not go the road I went down. I don't want to see people go the way I did. It just takes time, your not going to heal over night. Right now even though I'm pregnant I still sometimes get down about, but it just verys on person to person. If you know what I mean. I've read all kinds of books about losing a baby and about griving, none of it worked for me. with me I think just talking about with friends and family helped, and getting on medicen because like I said I was really depressed. I'm still worried that I will lose the baby that I am caring now. In my opion you need to just figure out what will work for you. I am very sorry for your lose, and hope that you don't have to go threw that again. i wish you the best of luck!! ***
2006-09-05 13:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by charlenelipshin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was talking to someone else about this the other day... she had suffered a miscarriage, and she still kept a scan photo of her baby with her... she had even named her... but she seemed to be accepting of what happened. Only you can know how you truly feel, but in the vast majority of cases, a miscarriage occurs as nature's way of coping if something is wrong with the pregnancy... either with the baby or the mother... that may not be a consolation, but I for one hope that you can find a way to get through this... good luck!
2006-09-05 12:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by nikkoj1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a total of 3 miscarriages and they are so hard, i thought i was never going to get over them but with time and having a baby I'm okay with it now. Sometimes still i think about the baby that was taken away from me and wonder what if. it may take time but you should still try to have another baby if that is what you want. HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER.
2006-09-05 12:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by angie1412 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not had a miscarriage but I did have an Ectopic pregnancy my hubby brought a teddy for me well it was a monkey his name is cuddles and now and then when I feel down I give cuddles a cuddle this helps but I got pregnant and really fast and this was the biggest help of all. that was over 19 years ago and now and then I still think about it. but I look at my son and think he would not have been if that did not happen. Its not easy but I would say try and get pregnant again. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it was really hard for me to accept my miscarriage I cried for days but I thought about it realized my baby was in heaven which is the best place to be and waited a year like the Dr.said and I was pregnant with my next child almost lost that one 2 but I told myself nothing is gonna happen this one will be safe.just try to think about heaven and where would you rather be?
2006-09-05 12:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Josie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 living children and have had 3 miscarriges. It is really hard to get over but you need to tell yourself it was not your fault. Feeling guilty was the hardest thing for me but with help of family and friends you will start to feel better! Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-09-05 12:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage in January... I was pregnant again in April. Being pregnant was all I could think about and it's what's made me feel better.
2006-09-05 12:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋