I am thinking of coming out and need the support of people who accept that fact without thinking twice. I would like to meet some other gay guys that are under 18 so that I have the support I need to feel comfortable in coming out to my parents.
2006-09-05 11:52:21 · 13 answers · asked by roseswillbloomagain 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Get in touch with a local LGBT group. You will need support, but you will feel so much better afterwards. What about your boyfriend? Do you know any supportive girls. Try telling your mom first, but don't drop it on her at some family gathering. Do it when you are alone with her, in a relaxed setting and be ready for tears. Odds are she will already have an inkling of your otherness and be relieved that you have finally faced the truth about yourself. Once you start coming out, you kind of get a momentum and you tell everybody. Resist this. Tell people who you feel need to know. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need all this support you may need to wait. Sometimes when you come out when you are younger its harder... Parents initial reaction might be less desirable.... As time goes by it only gets easier..... Maybe you need to wait until you have a group of friends and a place to stay.. Just in case you don't get the response your looking for..... Remember how much you want to feel comfortable ....... your parents might be the opposite... Its ridiculous but everyone will have mixed feeling at first.....
2006-09-05 18:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello, I'm not a gay guy under 18, but I'm rooting for you. Go for it and don't pay any attention to people who say being gay is wrong etc. They're just not worth your attention. And your parents may surprise you with their acceptance. Maybe they already know you're gay but are they just waiting for you to tell them.
2006-09-05 19:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just my thought but gays that come out get a lot of crap because some people who say this crap knows and then your labeled. Most all do or have come out and they have some difficulty because of those of us who don't understand or believe in this way of life. I'm not trying to discourage you I just found the opportunity to express the reason why people didn't come out years ago.
2006-09-05 19:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sorry i am not a guy but i have alot of gay guy friends one of which is now 25 and hasn't come out completely the only ones who know are me,him,his exes and his recent boyfriend he has been dating guys for ten years. So props to you if your coming out it will be so much easier for you trust me i have seen some one in the closet and its a really small place.
2006-09-05 19:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listed below are a few sites to begin with and there is a data base of support groups for youth coming out on OutProud.
Remember, you are not alone and there are thousand of young people who are questioning their sexuality and talking with other young people in safe, supportive environments.
This is a site that has lots of up to date information for young people coming out
http://www.mogenic.com/
http://www.outproud.org/: this is a good online start
http://www.oasismag.com/
2006-09-05 23:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Orditz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13 and I don't plan to tell anyone until I am financially and emotionally stable. I suggest you do the same. If you told your parents now, it could affect your academics and stuff like that. Just wait. I know it's torture not to have someone to talk to about your sexuality but just wait.
If you want to contact me, septimus_dillusion@hotmail.com
2006-09-06 06:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me carefully...do not come out to your parents at this time. Do not come out to your parents at this time. Do not come out to your parents at this time. Say this while clicking your heels three times!
You need your parents for support and schooling. You are not on your own yet...you have NO idea how they will react...and they probably already know. Leave it at that. There is NO REASON to tell them what so ever at this time...far too many kids are left out in the cold after coming out to their parents too soon. Don't make the mistake. Good luck
2006-09-05 19:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sorry but I'm way over 18...you might want to try and get support from someone a little older who's gone through it all...as opposed to people who are in the middle of it --as you are..but I'm way too old to advise you..
2006-09-05 19:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Check out PFLAG... I'm sure they have some sights on their links list that can help you.
PFLAG is Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays
2006-09-05 19:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋