Mother-in-Law in town opinionated and trys to tell us we are raising our 2 yr old child wrong?

Question

She is purposly trying to change how we feed him. Talks constantly not allowing anyone to talk. Contradicts everything said sometimes to try to start a debate or agrument. What, oh what to do?

Answer 1

The only right she has is the one bestowed by social conditioning and the romantic notion that mothers-in-law know best! Other than that she has absolutely no say in the way you decide to raise your children. She can opine all she wants but it is you and only you who can decide if her suggestions will be taken into consideration. It is a touchy situation because it is your spouse's mother but someone has to be the bad guy! You have to sit her down and calmly explain that even though she has had more experience than you in raising kids it is now your turn to learn and figure out the best way to educate your children. You must make her understand that as a grandparent her main concern should be to love her grand-kids not to educate them. Tell her there are many things you find wrong with the way she does things but that doesn't give you the right to rule over her. If logical, civil reasoning do not suffice you'll have to be more assertive and let her know that her visits will be suspended unless she respects your decision. Good luck!

Answer 2

Boy, can I relate to that one. My mother tells me I spoil my son and will be sorry when he's a teenager. He's only 3. If she sees my children misbehaving, (like they all do), I swear she gets this smirk on her face as if to say "ha ha now it's your turn". She actually enjoys watching me struggle, I assume because I was a handful when I was younger. I wonder if they got unsolicited advice from their parents and in laws, too. Some just go to extremes. As long as you aren't giving your 2 year old pizza for breakfast and candy bars for lunch, I'm sure you're doing fine. You are the parents now, and maybe if you and your wife could (gently) tell her how you both feel, she would back off a little. (Unless she's like my mom). If not, just smile and nod; keep things as pleasant as possible until she goes home...good luck!

Answer 3

Wow Im in the same situation. Well kind of but what makes it harder for me is that my sons father is gone he passed when I was pregnant so from that point on, his mother had been CONSTANTLY stepping on my toes lol I let it go sympathizing for her because I couldnt imagine what pain Id be in if I lost my son. So after I got sick of it, it was argument after argument. I came to realize that it is just not going to change. Especially because we clash, Im biracial and was raised with my ''white'' family lol and she always says I raise my son ''the white way'' because Im not into beating his *** or screaming and swaring at him lol her culture is completley different. So my point is COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS i bet you dont have it as hard as I do lol...and you might just have to deal with it forever. Talk to her about it but if you fail like I have plenty of times, then you are STUCK or give her an ultimatum! GOOD LUCK and I wish you the best from the bottom of my heart, I feel your pain lol.....I really do :)

Answer 4

Tell her that she did a wonderful job raising your spouse however you have a lot to learn but would like to learn it on your own. If you have any questions on raising you will ask her.

Answer 5

tell her nicely to but out and let ya'll do what ya'll think is right. it's ya'll house and lay down some rules make sure to talk it over with wife so you don't end up in the dog house

Answer 6

Tell her,"we are raising this child by the Nunya Standard. Nunya d**n business.

Answer 7

your the only one that knows all the details, be a man, wiegh the details, put your pants on and handle it. its yalls house.

Answer 8

pray for the time to pass rapidly.