Is there any way to be less emotionally sensitive, to be emotionally stronger and have "thicker skin" so as not to be so easily hurt by other peoples' words and attitudes?
2006-09-05 11:42:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well I think being ultra sensitive is more than a blessing that it is a curse. However, in the agressive world we live in I can understand how you may feel at times. Sensitivity is anything but a flaw. Many highly sensitive people are often unusually creative and productive workers, attentive and thoughtful partners, and intellectually gifted individuals and could contribute much more to society if they received the right kind of attention. In her national bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, author Elaine Aron defines a distinct personality trait that affects as many as one out of every five people.
2006-09-05 12:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easily Hurt Feelings
2016-12-16 10:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUCK UP!
OK here it is:
If someone intentionally tries to hurt you, by being hurt, you give them the victory they desired and power over you. Plus you then blame them for your inability to be responsible enough for your own thoughts and feelings that you let them have this control over you so easily, which is a cop out as YOU are responsible for YOU.
Or maybe it wasn't intentional? Well just what is the problem, anyway? Was what they said true? If not, why does it bother you? If so, what are you doing whining about it instead of fixing whatever it is that makes you so vulnerable in the first place?
I have a friend who's thinking is totally bass ackwards. He has little control over his emotions and is always saying how shallow I am because I am not as easily affected. Guess he never heard of the saying that still waters run deep.
Don't feel bad - some people are emotional in nature for whatever reason. Apparenlty you are and aren't happy that way, so WORK TO CHANGE.
YOU CAN DO IT!
2006-09-05 11:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sure, I do what works for me, which includes cutting those type of people out of my life, I close that door, and welcome the new door of opportunity to enter into new friends, places and experiences that have a lot of commonality with my interests and hobbies so to speak. I dust off all the unwanted harsh judgements and cruelties others have done to me, and know who I am...caring, honest, great sense of humour, intelligent enough to not be a follower, but a leader, open minded, and always focused on goals towards my very happy future. Those who once had the opportunity to hang out with me, cause I believe i am way cool...in my own way...have lost a great friend and many good times, but oh well they snooze, they lose, and way better for me, I don't have that baggage they would like me to carry filled with their jealous insecurity about themselves. Hope that helps, have a great day, you deserve it! :-)
2006-09-05 12:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because you believe there is truth in their words and opinions. Of course a person with the highest self-confidence isn't unbreakable, but confidence certainly helps. How does one acquire confidence? By doing things you enjoy that make you feel good about who you are and knowing you have value and by surrounding yourself with people who bring out the best in you.
2006-09-05 13:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
well i have had my feelings hurt by others! i was teased all through school! and it sucked big time! but you know what as i grew up i just learned to not let it bother me! if what they said was true i would think about how to fix it or to live with it! besides you can only be hurt by it if you let it bug you! and you are truley the one reponsable for your feelings and your emotions! yes others can affect them but you are the one that has to be in control of them! i know this because i learned it the hard way! by letting others hurt me! i built up a wall around my emotions so that i did not get hurt anymore! and it was recantly smashed to bits! by something that someone wise told me! what they said to me made me think about myself and my feelings and take repsonablity for them! and you know sticks and stones can hurt you but words they can just go in one ear and right out the other ear! the choice is yours whether you let them do that or if you take them to heart! I hope you don't get hurt anymore because its really not fun. but sometimes it does happen and we just have to deal with it!
2006-09-05 12:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad about it, feel sorry for them instead and just ignore them. Anyone that resorts to calling people names is a loser anyway. Calling names is behaving like the monkeys at the first of '2001: A Space Odyssey' running at each other and then running away. They're just trying to build themselves up and make themselves look bigger to their buddies. You see the same thing on the internet people insulting other people trying to make themselves look big, but they just look stupid.
2016-03-17 08:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard.We are all hurt when that happens PPL that try to hurt you just are insecure. Im sorry someone hurt you . Think oh all your good quilities I know this is hard when someone brings you down Of they do it alot ask them why I bet that will shut them up
2006-09-05 12:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by iamblessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind yourself that when someone does something nasty or rude...it has nothing to do with you but has everything to do with problems and issues within the person of the perpetrator. Show me a nasty person and I will show you a person who is miserable inside and likely does not have things good at home. Happy people behave well to others. People with hang ups do not.
2006-09-05 11:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can always be aware that anything anyone says is purely THEIR OPINION.
If you start to take everything with a grain of salt, you will become less sensitive to the opinions of one person individually, and start looking at the 'bigger picture'.
"So this person thinks my haircut is silly, who cares?! I like my hairstyle! Does my hairstyle define who I am? NO! It is merely the way I have fashioned it this morning. It is as transient and fleeting as that person's opinion..."
etc. etc. etc.
If you can recognise your strengths and positive aspects, and if you can justify your actions (to yourself), then you have nothing to worry about :)
2006-09-05 11:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy Goosey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋