I'm married with children, have been for 11 years. I've met another woman that I think I love. At a minimum, I have very strong feelings for her. The same goes for her. She's been married for several years as well.
We have never gotten physical (aside from a couple of hugs) but I can't help the way I feel about her.
I would never leave my family for another woman, I've made a commitment that I will not violate. At the same time, I can't just turn off my feelings/heart.
There is no answer to this problem. I suspect I'm more looking to tell somebody than anything else. I feel frustrated...
2006-09-05 11:22:02 · 12 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Additional details... I still love my wife. And there is more at stake than her and I, there are the children. By telling her the way I feel I run the risk of jeopardizing our family. That is far too great a risk.
2006-09-05 11:51:46 · update #1
I've been there, trust me you will always regret trading in your wife for lust. There will be many times in your life that women will turn your head, just take a deep breath and remember all the good things and times you have had with your wife and stay steady on the course. No one knows till they have broken their vows just how low you will feel about yourself for the rest of your time here. Your wife has something that drew you to her...keep telling yourself all the reasons you chose her. Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 11:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well ... do you think it could have anything to do with "seven year itch" types of problems? For example, you've been married several years, you have kids, so perhaps the flame has died down a bit? Is your wife a good mother? Does she have any idea that you are feeling this way? It is so easy to believe the grass is greener, but even if you were to be with this other woman, the novelty would eventually wear off, and the humdrum boring everyday stuff might take the romance out of this relationship, too. I think you should try to talk to your wife. Is counseling an option? Maybe your wife needs something to spice up the relationship. Have you taken her out on a date lately? I just know how easy it is to idealize a new relationship and to believe things would be better with that person. But it's not always the case.
2006-09-05 11:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation is clear. You do not want to take a risk because you are hearing your heart voice. You are right, go on this way. Keep your treasure, your family. There will be nothing better outside. Avoid contacts with the other woman and time will help you to forget the thoughts you have feed. Soon your frustration will vanish.
2006-09-05 11:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by vahucel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from experience most people will give into temptation, ..If you still love your wife you should tell her what is going on and be totally honest with her staying together just because you made a commitment is not good. I cheated on my husband and he said he forgave me, 3 years later he cheated on me because he really never got over what I did. We have spent 4 months Talking,and talking, we have now decided to buy new rings, and renew our wedding vowels. Some people never get over cheating, so think hard. If you are not still in love with your wife you really should just tell her and leave. Good luck and honesty may hurt but is the best way to be
2006-09-05 11:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things are better left unsaid. The last thing a woman wants to hear is that her husband whom she loves, and shares children with is in love with someone else. And the fact that it hasn't gotten physical means its just something that's lacking out of your relationship with your wife. Try to introduce new things to her that keeps you interested. And do not, i repeat do not let anything happen with this other married woman, you both have lots at stake!!!!
2006-09-05 12:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by gourgeousinbr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not being around her... Maybe its just an infatuation.. most men and woman get it when their marriage gets to a certain point. try going on a second honeymoon. Spark up your marriage and the feelings for her might just be something you miss with your wife
2006-09-05 11:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by keep your head up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are a woman....well, either way, at least you stand by your committment...but if you no longer love your spouse, you should be honest with yourself and talk to your husband. He deserves to know where your heart is right now. It's actually for the best in the long run. Keeping secrets will harm your health and your family. I hope you can find happiness...no matter what you choose....Good luck.
2006-09-05 11:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by shynomore 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I called it coming to my senses. I always knew I was a lesbian and thought I could control it by marrying a man. Wrong
2016-03-26 23:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a same problem too. The different between you and me is he is a single man. Tell me about how you feel.
2006-09-05 12:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about my wife, please take her. I love her, but I'd rather you took her if she wanted to go. Maybe the other guy feels the same way? Maybe your wife feels the same way? Why not just bring it out into the open and find out.
2006-09-05 11:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋