Child support?

Question

How can I enforce that the child support is spent for the kids? How can I make her to do that?Attorney general office will only collect money and does not/does not want to get involved in this.

Answer 1

Lemme know if you figure it out. My dad gets pissed because he pays child support and my mom refuses to buy us new clothes and shoes. Instead, she uses the money to pay for HER bills. I have to buy my own school supplies for Christ's sake!

Answer 2

I am not sure about other states, but in New Jersey, a party can file a post judgment motion and have the court review the facts surrounding the original deal that was made concerning support for spouse and children. Child support is typically arrived at by a calculation of both parties income and other factors with an assumption that the child(ren) will receive the money. If the evidence is there that they money is not being spent on the kids, a judge may order her to account for her spending. It may be useful to seek a good lawyer. If you feel your case is strong, I'd ask my lawyer to request that she pay for the attorney's fees that made this motion necessary in the first place. Good luck.

Answer 3

The biggest problem with child support is accountability. The courts award child support but dont tell anyone what is to be done with the money. So basically no matter how much you hate it, and want something done, the courts will do nothing, even if you can prove the money is used elsewhere but for the child. Not fair, yes but illegal,no. Your are definitely not the only one feeling this way but right now theres not much you can do.

Answer 4

You can't. Once it's ordered paid to the custodial parent, it is literally out of your hands. Most men think that the woman is going to spend the money on herself, but unless you have proof that your child(ren) are not having their basic needs met (food, shelter, education), you have no basis to complain. Think of it in terms that you are helping to make it possible for your kids to live as normal a life as possible. Make sure that you remain in their lives in addition to the money that you are paying. And yes, there will be times when your kids might ask you for something. A dumb a** response would be "I already gave your mom $_____ last week." Man up! You no longer have control over this particular woman. It's all about your kids now, and the sooner you release any bitterness and control issues concerning your ex, the quicker you can heal and become the best dad ever!

Answer 5

When you pay child support the money goes to your ex-spouse to be placed in her accounts to pay for things such as housing food ect...

If you feel the children are not being cared for appropriately and the money you send is not being spent for the things needed for the day to day raising of the children, you need to contact your local child support enforcement office and learn what your legal recourse is...

However if the children are well cared for and in need of nothing, and all you want is a full dollar by dollar accounting of what the money is spent on, you are insane and controlling... Seek counseling and learn that your ex has no obligation to answer to you..

Answer 6

All I can say is, thank you for paying child support. So many men don't even try to help out. You are good for just doing that. You can't control how she spends it, but just know that you are the better person. If she was a good mother, she would know that it should be spent on the child and she would WANT to use it for that. Hence the name, CHILD support. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

If you have proof that she is not spending the money on the kids then you need to talk to an attorney but you got to remember this...If she is spending the money to pay bills they will tell you that that is for the welfare of the children.
However if she is taking the money and buying booze and partying with it then you need to do something now and get those kids away from her.
BUT YOU GOT TO HAVE PROOF.
FOLLOW HER AND TAKE PICTURES WHEN YOU KNOW SHE HAS JUST GOTTEN THE CHILD SUPPORT

Answer 8

cant enforce that. nothing anyone can do for this. Maybe if you can prove that the money is not getting spent on what it should be maybe you can get the lawyers to agree you pay the bills direct or buy the food or something so you are still giving the kids what they need.

Answer 9

You cannot dictate how the money is spent by her however you might try an alternative to child support that meets state guide lines ie an annuity or something for the child or children

Answer 10

I think if the kids are obviously being neglected, ie no new clothes, no food etc. and your ex drives a brand new BMW or something you may be able to go to a judge and fight it, otherwise it's household money and as head of the household, she can do what she wants/needs to do with it.

All child support money doesn't go to the kids, it goes to utilities, food, rent, health insurance, school supplies etc. etc. stuff that is not readily visible to the outside world.

Answer 11

safe sex would've prevented this question but since you asked... everything that the child needs is produced for the child by the mom ( in this case ) the rent for the living space, the food on the table, the electric, the gas ( for both the stove and the car ) the clothes on their back(s), the school supplies, the haircuts, the activities, the computer and Internet svcs., car insurance, health insurance, doctors visits, phone bills to talk to your dumb *** about this, medications, toiletries, day care!!, dishes to eat off of, sports equipment, hobbies, braces... anything that i might not have mentioned here feel free to think of on your own... if your capable.

next time i guess you'll use a condom huh??