My GF has emotional, jealousy issues. I love her and she says she loves me. We fought on PMS/PMDD times. Seperated. Got back together many times in the past year. There must be something there. Maybe not enough. She has been this way with all her past relationships. I love her, but I don't know if I can handle the struggle. I need hints in how to be friends with her and not ex lovers at feud.
2006-09-05 11:16:19 · 5 answers · asked by halfwound 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
here's something i heard recently that really made a lot of sense:
u gotta learn to Think with your Heart...!!!
what that means, is that obviously u have all these emotions....ur heart is an amazing thing.... it Feels Happy, Sad, Up, Down..... there's no real Right or Wrong when it comes to love. but your brain is what tells you, maybe i can do better. or why am i staying in an unhappy relationship.....therefore this person is not good for me. blah blah.... the two sometimes clash, because the person you Love can be the one that Hurts you the most!!! and when u use only ur heart, and not ur mind, u can get sucked into dangerous territory. if u only use ur mind, however, sometimes u let go of a good thing! therefore, u gotta Think with your Heart. obviously there are reasons why u guys are not able to Satisfy eachothers needs... there may be a communication problem. either way, if u try ur hardest to do what is right, for and by this woman, and it is not good enough, or not what she is looking for, than u gotta Think w/ your Heart and figure out what is best for you AND her...sometimes loving someone is letting them go... not using them or going back for "friends w/ benefits", or remember the good times and ignoring the bad..... u gotta find someone who helps u become a Happy, Healthy, Positive person.. better than were. someone who will grow with you, and become stronger and better each day. if that is not what u have currently, than why are u staying? =T u gave it ur best...now u might have to let it go. but not because u failed, or didn't care enough..but because u want to let her find someone who will help her to stop being destructive...and u can find someone and develop a healthy relationship with. good luck~
2006-09-05 11:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all there is meds for pms/pmdd maybe she should try some or go see a dr. You should really ist down and tell her how you feel and that them times are tearin ya'll apart!! Tell her you just wanna be friends and hope she doesn't take all of it the wrong way but she needs some help with that part of her relationship!! You men got to understand some women really go through hard times with pms/pmdd and should be more understanding but if she is that different at them times she does need to seek a drs advice!!Good luck!!
2006-09-05 18:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs help and not from you. Your best bet is to move on with your life and be a better man for it. Time will heal all the hurting.
2006-09-05 18:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by short stack 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TAKE SOME TIME APART,
TRY NOT TO TALK TO HER FOR AWHILE. KEEP YOURSELF
BUSY.IF SHE CALLS,SAY HI BUT SORRY CAN'T TALK NOW
EVEN IF SHE STARTS A FIGHT. JUST GIVE IT SOME TIME.
ITS HARD,TRUST ME I KNOW!
2006-09-05 18:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by bigmouth69frav 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just dump her
2006-09-05 18:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋