I just recently got married, and everytime I visit my in-laws, they talk to me with smart remarks and mad faces. I'm stuck on whether I should tell my wife or just try to play along like it doesn't even matter.
2006-09-05 11:10:26 · 14 answers · asked by theringer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st of all...u should be able to talk to ur partner about ANYTHING. and i mean...anything. because as partners "in crime" so to speak... u are a team. against the world sometimes! and the only way u can stay together, is to stick together.
so, if i were u, i would bring it up to her. depending on if she validates ur feelings (which is EXTREMELY important), u gotta communicate that u feel uncomfortable w/ her fams.
there are a few ways she can react:
she doesn't believe you, completely defends her family---> that is bad, cuz she's not validating how u feel. even if u are imagining it, if something is making u feel sad, bad, or anything negative, she has to help u deal w/ it.
she is skeptical, but willing to take a look and observe--> she may be blind w/ love for her family, but at least she is giving what u are saying a chance
she believes you...or even agrees, and "knew" all along that they didn't like you...which may hurt, but at least she can understand where u are coming from.
i dunno..but either way, this all stems from First speaking w/ ur wife. it is extremely important to learn from this situation, how u and ur wife will be able to get thru future situations. :) good luck, be as honest, tactful, caring, and Helpful as you can... remember to at least TRY to make things as Healthy, Happy and Positive as possible. even if u come to a conclusion that u gotta grit ur teeth and smile knowing that they are mean to u, at least u will be the bigger person, and ur wife will appreciate it!
2006-09-05 11:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think communication in a relationship starts from the beginning so if you just got married tell her.
And as far as your in-laws why do they hate you. Is there something you did to their daughter, there has to be a reason why?
You should talk to them about it as well and show them that you are the right catch for their daughter and they will like you regardless of what happened in the past.
2006-09-05 11:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try talking to your wife but a lot of women are afraid to confront there parents on with things like this. I have the same problem with my inlaws. Best thing to do is to treat them fairly and respectfuly. They will lighten up in time. You have to be strong and do a lot of lip bitting, but it will pay off sooner or later. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-05 11:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play along like it doesn't matter - that alone is the best revenge.
If your wife doesn't notice, comment about it light-heartedly after the event is over.
"Honey, did you see the way your aunt was scowling at me? She looked like the Witch of the West!"
2006-09-05 11:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the sake of your marriage try to get along with them!!!
If that's not possible then you will just have to learn to try and tolerate them and believe me I know that's hard to do.
I am in a marriage where there was a wife before me and they still love her and treat me like a second class citizen when she is over and shes over a lot.
2006-09-05 11:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a taste of their own medicine. Me and my inlaws have never got a long but they see who wins in the end rite? they haven't wanted me a round since day 1 but thats what love does to a man!
2006-09-05 11:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill them with kindness sweetie. Be the sweetest, most helpful person you can be. I've been in that situation, and trust me, the best thing to do is smile and be plesant. If someone says something... rude... then ignore it and move it. Don't take it too personally, if they don't like you, that's their hang up :)
2006-09-05 11:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by kandykidsaturn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let ur wife know they make u feel uncomfortable when u visit and just be urself.don't let them get to u if it continues to go on then it's time to sit them down and just talk it out,ask them what u did to make them dislike u so much see how it goes.
2006-09-05 11:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife. communication is everything. and if need be tell her yuo wont stop her from going over but that you feel uncomfortable goiung over so you dont want to. I dont go over to ,my in law but i dont stop my husband from seeing them. you married her not her parents.
2006-09-05 11:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by super mummies life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋