my bf of five months dumped me after i got a positive pregnancy test 3 actually. i felt sad and alone he told me no guy would ever date me . i decided to go out and flirt to prove him wrong and ended up meeting someone else that i met at my college orientation he asked me out and we totally hit it off he has no idea i am pregnant only that i hate my ex. bf and there was some emotional trauma. we have almost everything in common. is this wrong???? i really wish i never got pregnant.
2006-09-05 11:09:36 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
only 3 weeks pregnant
2006-09-05 11:13:28 · update #1
really like the new guy
2006-09-05 11:15:27 · update #2
Well, the fact is, you ARE pregnant. Tell this young man at once and if it's meant to be, he will stick by you through it all. Good luck.
2006-09-05 11:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! He's an @ss for leaving you and you are in love again there is nothing ever wrong with love no matter what anyone tells you! If you tell the man that you are pregnant and he accepts that fact than it is just fine, I say go ahead and forget about the ex but if he doesn't except you for that then he isn't worth the effort, you have opened a new chapter in your life and you are rewriting you romance forget the ex and go for the new love of your life the only time that love is wrong is if it is actually immoral like "Incest" or with YOUNGER kids or animals of that sort, Love is not ever morally wrong if it does not harm nor hurt anyone! LOVE is the only thing that doesn't ever die there will always be someone who will love you!, Hope this helps Blue
2006-09-05 11:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by E.F. Landeros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're good to be rid of the first bf . . .stay away from him.
It's definitely not morally wrong to stay away from the first guy or date the second. The second guy sounds ok, but at some point you have to open up to him more and let him know what's going on with you.
You sound young, so maybe now is not the best time to have a baby, or to try to raise one.
Definitely check in with a school counselor to get some help dealing with your situation - you might have three main choices:
1 - get an abortion
2 - have the baby and give it up for adoption
3 - have the baby and try to raise it as a single mom or with your families support or with a man if you get married.
You have some big decisions.
2006-09-05 11:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to tell him that you are but that you're not sure what you're going to do. I mean if the guy is really interested in persuing a relationship then maybe he can overlook the pregnancy thing. I would tell him asap though so that there isnt a big blowout that you lied about being pregnant. If you doesnt want tos ee you then youre better off anyways. Good luck!
2006-09-05 11:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want this baby right now which seems to be pretty obvious. Give this child to a two parent home where the parents are committed in marriage.
You are not mature enough to be a mother you are far to caught up in boyfriend ex boyfriend drama.
If you wished you never got pregnant you should have done something to prevent it or better yet sustain from sex all together. Subjecting your unborn child to drama during pregnancy and after is selfish of you. Get your life together.
2006-09-05 11:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not trying to be mean but you really should not have been having unprotected sex with someone you are just dating.You are going to have to tell this person but he probably won't stick around when you do.The other guy you are pregnant by will not be in the baby's life either so that is something to think about also.Its not about you at this point you need to do what is best for your baby.
2006-09-05 11:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be more careful in your sex life dear. If you do not want this baby there are options you can make. I would tell this other fellow if he is someone you plan on being with. The other bf might have just got scarred it isn't an easy thing to comprehend at first try reconciling with him.
2006-09-05 11:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be totally open and honest with your new friend, then you will end up with the same kind of trauma you just experienced.
You may find that he surprises you with loving support for whatever you decide. Or, you may find that he is a total jerk and save yourself months or years of heartache. Either way, you win if you are up front with everything.
2006-09-05 11:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by Monica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth. it'll all work out, even if its not with this guy. your ex sounds like a total donkey... good luck to you and best wishes to your baby. remember... abortion is not birth control, and should only be resorted to in cases of rape, incest, childs quality of life (severely retarded, severely physically impaired) if you don't want the child, give it up for adoption. but remember, most people who do that regret it... the baby they never got to know, raise, teach, love, and live for. Babies can be the biggest blessing in the world... its hard at first, but they are worth it.
2006-09-05 11:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend being honest with the new guy about the pregnancy - the sooner, the better. It's not fair to lead him on without knowing what he's getting into. You never know - he just might surprise you. Not all guys are as shallow as your ex.
2006-09-05 11:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Bug's Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ally, Ally.
Slow down. You're borrowing from your future to cram all this living into a few months.
You should have that baby, name your ex as the father so at least he gets hit for child support, marry the guy you're in love with and raise the child with him.
2006-09-05 11:13:35 · answer #11 · answered by Jerry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋