I just learned my husband has a foot fetish. How can I indulge him without making him feel ashamed, silly, or embarrassed?
2006-09-05 10:51:17 · 28 answers · asked by Special nobody 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as it's not an obsession. That he'll do anything to look at, touch, log on to foot fetish sites. (Yeah, they are out there) Than you can indulge him. Let him set the pace. If he's nervous. Call him in when your taking a bubble bath. Have oils and lotions ready. Ask him if he'd like to wash your feet for you.
Or when you are painting your toenails, ask him to if he'd like to pick the color. Things like that. He'll get over his shyness. And as long as this isn't anything that makes you uncomfortable and your willing to do.
There are web sites on the subject. If you want to understand more and learn ways to indulge him. It's cool if you don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. You may have fun too.
2006-09-05 11:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Balou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! You have some one who can give you something you will ENJOY all the way around and he can indulge in his little fetish at the same time. You are lucky I love to have my feet rubbed ..I once dated a guy who loved feet and especially if you had stockings on black stocking and sexy strappy heels were his favorite and yes he always wanted my feet and he even sucked my toes!I know gross to some ..it feels good though : ) He liked to watch me paint my nails even. He loved to check out the ladies and their feet he would always point them out...the most sexy or the ugly!!It didn't bother me though I was the one who got the foot rub and yes the loving after it turned him on so!!
So yes indulge him ...let him give the pedicure and rub the lotion and message those feet and suck your toes!! Dress up those tootsies and give him a show he will never forget and become a feet watcher as the people pass by point them out ..the good the bad and the oh so ugly!! Have fun with it, once he learns it's OK he will be more open with his fetish!!
2006-09-06 14:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. It's all about how you approach it. He probably feels apprehensive about you actually knowing, unless he's told you. And even then, if he was reluctant, it still could be a sore subject for him. He's what you do: Just keep your feet soft, pretty, and accessible. Don't go putting your feet in his face or being aggressive with him about it. Just be accepting of his likes. Foot fetishism is not readily accepted yet by the public, so he might still be uncomfortable with it.
I'm married and have a foot fetish myself. I haven't really come out and told my wife I have one, but she understands. I don't feel comfortable coming out about it, but I will when I feel ready.
You seem like a great wife for really caring and wanting to be accepting of your man's likes. I commend you for that.
2006-09-06 02:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, let him know that you know about his foot fetish and approve of it... Ask him if thier are ways you can indulge and participate in his fetish... He will not feel embarrassed ashamed or silly if you approach it as something that you approve of and tell him you approve of...
Communication is key to making a marriage work...
2006-09-05 11:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know that you know about it, right? It's not my cup of tea but here's a suggestion.
After you take a bath sit next to him on the sofa or bed. Tell him you've had a long day and that your feet hurt. Ask him to rub them. You'll enjoy it anyway so make some appropriate sounds as you relax. Use the foot that he's not rubbing to stroke him gently. You might even put it in his crotch (gently) to see how he reacts.
If all this goes well, the next step is to ask him to kiss your foot. (That's why I suggested that you start with the bath.) Or, if you think that might be moving too quickly, tell him you're tired and ask him to paint your toenails.
You might even invite him into the tub with you. Sit at each end facing each other. Your feet will be right in front of him that way. Then, ask him to rub them. They'll be nice and clean at that point, so ask him to kiss them.
Good luck. You sound like a nice wife to work on this so he feels good about it.
2006-09-05 10:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a foot fetish and all I can say is to let him know that you know he likes feet. But do it in a way that he will not be embarassed about it. I have a freaind also that has a foot fetish and he will not tell his wife as he is scared of her rejecting him on it. So he goes out and finds girls that is willing to let him play with their feet. I TOTALLY disagree with him on that. It is cheating on his wife and not right. You don't want the same to happen to you also. There is nothing worse than a guy going behind his wifes back to fulfill his fetish. Tell your hubby you know! I hope this helps and feel free to IM me if you see me on so I can help you on how to tell him. Also if you have any questions about it you are welcome to ask my wife also! We both wish you luck!
2006-09-05 11:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Soleman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him rub your feet and do whatever he wants to them (within reason). Read the paper while he does. No big deal. It's the most common of fetishes
2006-09-05 10:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once met a guy with the same fetish. Just let him pamper you and caress your feet. No harm done.
Keep your feet clean and nails well polished.
2006-09-05 10:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Minina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get all the pedicures you want now! Just be thankful he doesn't have a fetish for teen porn or something sick like that. Enjoy!
2006-09-05 11:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get The Best Darn Pedicure Out ther And Then just let him dicover your foot all over again.
HOPE THIS HELPS
2006-09-05 10:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋