for 6 years, We broke up for 6 months about 3 years or more ago, and when we broke up I was dating this really nice cute but older guy for the entire 6 months. I was really in love with him, but I guess my bf's love was more important because I chose him over the other guy. Now it has been more than 3 years and I think about him often I even tried to call him once about 1 and 1/2 years ago, but I forgot the number and dialed someone else in Calif. where he lives, I have been trying to get his email address and I want to apologize to him for the way that I left him, I feel really bad and will until I get to tell him how sorry I am. This is how I left, he had bought me round trip tickets to see him and I never got on the plane instead I was just starting to patch things up with my now bf of 6 yrs and so I never got on and when he realized that I wasn't coming to see him he started to call me like crazy and I didn't answer for 1 day and when I did I lied to him and told him that on my way
2006-09-05 10:38:04 · 10 answers · asked by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
on my way to the airport I was pulled over and got arrested for drugs(which he kinda knew I was not into drugs at all but I stuck to that story) then later my bf answered my cell the next time he called and told him that I was with him and not to call anymore. I talked to him once breifely but I didn't get the chance to apologize for he was very upset (can you blame him) and then I have never seen or heard from him except he sent one of his ex-gf's to my work to get some things from me that belonged to him. I feel like crap and have ever since this day I want more than anything to apologize but I think if my man found out I was trying to contact him he would freak the f out... So Is it wrong of me to want to get in touch with him after this long and Is it wrong of me to even want to because me and my man now have just bought a home together and we are planning to get married I guess I am scared of bad carma if I don't apologize and ask for forgiveness, plus i want to pay for the tkts.
2006-09-05 10:42:56 · update #1
I'd say that you made mistakes and probably have hurt both these guys by the way you've handled it. However, such is life and I've heard much worse. The fact you feel guilty shows you have feelings- I'd be more worried if it didn't bother you at all. If I was this older guy, however, I'm not sure I'd want to hear from you.
2006-09-05 10:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you might not get that chance. It seems this guy was giving his all to prove that he wanted you & in the end you broke his heart. It would make you feel better I know if you got closure and got to talk to him. Think of it this way though. The time that has gone by, you tow have not talked and there is a good chance that a man that good has found someone and moved on himself. Do you realyl want to reopen old wounds, nake him question the woman he is with and do to her what you did to him?
It's your life so do what YOU think is right to make things right. It could work out for the best and nothing goes wrong, but there is a chance that this could turn into pandora's box opening...
2006-09-05 10:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave well enough alone and move on.
After all the money he spent for the tickets, and other things that went on, it's over. Stay with whom you've got.
What if your current boyfriend did the same thing to you? Now, would you want him? No, you'd tell him to take a hike. Don't be stupid and ruin something good because you're hormones are going crazy over this guy.
2006-09-05 10:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to ell the man sorry for what u did and then think about the man you are with dose your bf make u happy dose he pl your needs and may be u should just take a day and think of the one u don't what to be with out the one u u would die for u will find the one and the answer u are looking for dear
2006-09-05 10:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by rainy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should do your BF a favor and end it, cause you are not yet finished this other relationship, you should not be contacting this other guy at all. I bet you have not told your BF you want to contact this other guy, and you know this is wrong. You are not ready for a serious relationship with anyone.
2006-09-05 10:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So true..that's the bad thing about lying..the lie just gets bigger and bigger and the next thing you know, you are totally confused about which path you should have taken. If the older guy was smart, he went on with his life, as he expected, you were doing.
2006-09-05 10:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just want to write your feelings down in a letter. I know you may not know the address - but getting your feelings off your chest will help you feel better.
2006-09-05 10:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just drop it. you may get caught by your man and that will be a mess. the other guy has surely moved on by now and you wouldn't want to get him in trouble either.
2006-09-05 10:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really think that he would want to speak to you after what you did to him? wise up and forget him i am sure he has found someone that treats him much better then you ever did.
2006-09-05 10:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know where he lives.
2006-09-05 10:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋