have u ever felt like there is ABSOLUTELY nobody"out there for you"and...?

Question

that nobody understands u.?? why do people feel this way

Answer 1

yep been there, still there at times. depression, something happens in a negative way that makes you feel alone, etc.

Answer 2

I feel this way because iam such a free thinker, everybody I have ever met including majors in psychology , teachers have you tell me that. I dont think like anyone else, i dont want to think like everyone else , I deviate from the social norm all the time and it doesn't isolate me from people it makes me more intune with understanding them. Being a free thinker comes with ridicule and what seems like social punishment sometimes though. I have beliefs that will never be excepted because they are so far from the norm and people do not like change. Thats the biggest thing is change. Once someone gets in their own mindset they will not change their mind no matter what you say or do convincing people, well jeez this person doesnt understand me at all. The fact of the matter is most people dont understand each other at all whether its on a minimal level or an extreme level, but that also is one of the great things about life, you dont have to be understood to succeed, or then again is that what you want?

Answer 3

Yeah, of course, but then I cut the pity party short. Life is to be lived, right? Happy people are out there doing, they're not sitting around writing poems about it. Like Frank Herbert said, you learn the rules by playing the game. Not that I think introspection is wrong, it's obviously an important part of a healthy psyche, and a good feedback tool. But living within one's self can be a big waste of time, when we're all so very mortal.

Answer 4

The bigger question might be, what are you doing to attract or repel potential mates? It has always amazed me to hear women complain about not being able to find a mate, when they make little or no effort to attract one.

Guys are attracted to women, BECAUSE they look like women. Women however, dress for other women, to fit in, to be in style, and/or to look like a "perfect 10" trying to down-play her looks. Thus they tend to dress more like guys, than they do like women; jeans, sweetshirts, t-shirts, etc.

A few years ago, a female friend of mine was complaining about the very same thing. She was 46 years old, had a good job, was well educated, average looking, and had a very nice personality [I was unavailable at the time... if only I'd known]. I suggested she start dressing up; in heels and hose, short skirts and dresses, make-up, her hair done up, nails, etc, but she said she would feel too out-of-place dressed like that. So I suggested we go out of town [my girlfriend also], to which she finally agreed.

On the way to the bar, I told her to look around the room, when we got there, and pick out her top 10 favorite looking guys she thought she possibly might have a chance with, getting to know them better. However, I then instructed her to delete and [politely] ignore [even if they approached her] the top 5 of her picks, and concentrate on only the bottom 5. [It was a small bar and dance floor in a small town; had it been bigger, with more people, my numbers for her in each catagory would have been bigger] The reason I told her this was simple....

The top guys she'd be attracted to are also the top guys others around her age would be attracted to, and would most likely be playboys because of it. The others, although perhaps not quite as good looking, would be more likely to take notice of her interest in them, which was not normally the case with the other women her age that were interested in the top 5. Plus, once you get to know someone and like them, they tend to suddenly become more handsome.

To make a long story short... because she was dressed so nice that night, she attracted a lot of male attention; the likes of which, had she only been interested in a one night stand, she could have went home with any number of young men well below her age. But she ended up giving her phone number out to 3 different guys [all 3 were in the lower 5], and had accepted a dinner date with one of them for the following night.

She went out with him, then the following weekend went out with one of the other three. That was the last of them she dated; for six months later those two were married. He told me, that what initially impressed him the most about her, was the way she was dressed, and that had she not been dressed like that, that night, he might never have gone after her otherwise. She still dresses up whenever they go out.

Answer 5

Yeah I totally feel tha same way cuz I'v been wanting attendtion and my freindz won;t give it 2 me right now, so I juss give myself time 2 think about me and take care of me first cuz sometin must b wrong with me I think but I don't feel like that so I think it's ok 2 feel like this sometimes I think.

Answer 6

Because most people dont have the capacity to convey how they really feel. Without communication there can be no understanding.

Answer 7

well the sad truth is no one really understands us,because each of us are so different internally that its impossible.The only person who ever knows us fully is God.Companions in our life through relationships are not to serve as our under-standers,but merely our complimentary companions...they may not understand but they stand by us in loyalty and love...

Answer 8

Duudeee, I thoroughly understand what you recommend. college is getting so tiring and repetitive...genuinely 38 extra useful DAYS. fairly stickin it out. Yeah, as we communicate all I did as quickly as I have been given domicile from college replaced into skate around downtown wit my homies. have been given domicile, replaced, washed face, went to subway, and now this.

Answer 9

No, I can't say that I ever really have. I always have someone to talk to (when I want someone, that is), and I'm not really that complex or hard to understand.

Answer 10

Ive been to many 12 step programs to stay away from what my trouble are. they all say no one here is unique! i got a late breaking story for them im probably the most unique person on this planet! so finding someone to talk to is a *****!