I have been married for 3 years and me and my husband decided to have a baby. my husband has wanted a baby since we first got togeather 8 years ago. well the conversation came up that my freind couldnt beleive I was pregnate and I said ya I know because my husband has always wanted kids and I didnt. well my husband took it the wrong way and even thinks I said it hateful witch I didnt I didnt want kids because I was scared not because I didnt want them and when I decided to have one I was ready and I love him more than any thing and my husband to.. he said he cant look at me in the cant even look at me the same anymore and doesnt know if he loves me I dont know what to do
2006-09-05 10:25:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I can see how he got offended, but you have to remind him that you were being truthful. He needs to know that it was a preference, not a choice, that you didn't have a kid. He has stuck with you this long.
Given his reaction, I don't think that this is the only problem. He is also struggling with the fact that you made him a father (soon to be). He needs to be reminded that both of you have to work togather so that the child will have a chance at life. I think you should see a marriage counsellor as you are in transition, and there is bad feelings coming from your husband at a time that you NEED HIM.
2006-09-05 10:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up and get over it. Like hes Mr Perfect and never has said something he didnt really mean and later regret having said it? We are all human and say things we didnt mean to say and regretted it. He should let you explain what you said and what you meant by it, and sit there and listen before going off the deep end. Also he better learn that pregnant women are not responsible for what they say or for their actions. This is only good during pregancy. Men will never understand women ,pregnant or not, and your husband doesnt realize he making a bigger *** out of himself in dealing with this than what you did. Good luck and congrats on your baby.
2006-09-05 10:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband for 3 years and living together for 8 years. You should know his habits..
Just tell him directly and explain to him just as what you explain to us here. That it is not that you do not want the kids but only you are afraid of getting pregnant. That's it.
I am sure he will understand. If he will not.. Then.. Tell him I am telling him... he is just nuts, a nerd.. he doesn't deserve to be your husband.
He is supposed to be the first person to understand you and why you are afraid to get pregnant.
Tell him this.
Or if you can.. let him read all of the answers that you can get in this site.
2006-09-05 11:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why he don't understeand you?why he refuse?hes youre husbant and he is supose to be the one hwo understeand the wife.man are like wind today they think something and tomorrow they think other.he had to ask a doctore what is happening after a woman have a kid.if he can't look at you don't be afraid he will pass on this problem,he is just scared cause he think he can't love youre kids enough.take care of youre kids and go on,youre husbant will see the right side,i'm sure
2006-09-05 10:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to grow up. So you made that comment to a friend...considering you didn't want kids to begin with, I think it was a fair statement to make. And he should know by your actions that you don't feel that way now.
2006-09-05 10:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and calmly explain it to him just like you explained it to us. If he won't listen, or can't accept your explaination, he is an uncaring immature brat and it might be time to find a new father for your child. He might also be looking for a way out. His reaction will tell you how to proceed.
2006-09-05 10:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-05 11:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ur HUBBY needs to grow up!!!!
2006-09-05 10:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling with or with out him....
2006-09-05 10:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a cute guy and have an affair and let him find out
2006-09-05 10:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋