I am not with the father anymore becuase he has cheated in the past and just was not for me we would always argrue all the time we have a 4-year old daughter together as well he is a good father. I am so mad because I got pregnant now he is ignoring me when I call him and want to chat and asking him what he feels about this pregnancy his not happy he seems like he has moved on with his life he met someone and has been talking to her right after we broke up and that was just 3 weeks ago. Im going threw a depression becuase I already have a 4-year old daughter to raise and I just started my career as a law student and I feel like everything is going down the drain and I have no one to turn to for support. Any advice on what to do and how I can emotionally get through this?
2006-09-05 09:52:21 · 10 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't stress about it...if he is a good father he will come around...you just split up so there is hard feelings there. Just concentrate on your little girl and your new little one to be. Stress and depression will only cause illness and could harm you and the baby...which would make being a student worse. You don't want to miss class because you are ill. Don't let him get to you. I know it is easier said then done but you can do it! Just think about your 2 little ones who need you to be strong and healthy! I wasn't with the father of my baby when I found out and then we kinda got back together and then we are now not together and I am much happier right now...I am at the end of my pregnancy and have had a good one because he hasn't been around...it has been less stress to deal with!
2006-09-05 09:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it totally depends on your morals and what you really think is right. Life is really hard with kids - I have 3. My second was unplanned and sometimes I feel really bad when things get really rough with me and I wonder what it would be like to have less kids or to not have had them any at all. Sometimes I tell myself that if I had had the money at the time to have the abortion, I would not have had her at all. The fact remains that I did not have the abortion and sometimes I regret it. (Please don't get this the wrong way, I love my daughter to death, but those are only my thoughts sometimes) - I had my tubes tied now, Thank God! You have a chance to finish your studies, don't give that up for anything in the world. I wish with all my heart I could go back to school right now but finance is so tight. Only you know what you will go through and have to face. I don't blame anyone or look down on anyone who choose to have an abortion and if no one is there to support you then, honey, write to me.
2006-09-05 10:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by arlene j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your ex-boyfriend's actions are highly irresponsible, you share 50% of the blame for the pregnancy. Birth-controls are highly available and obviously, you neglected your part of the responsibility if you did not want to be pregnant.
I hope you recognize this, so that you can prevent future re-occurrence of similar problems.
He cannot simply "move on" and forget about the pregnancy so easily. You need to take necessary actions (ie. attorney) so that you can secure future support for his part in all this.
By the way, your career and future may be on hold for a while, but it is NEVER down the drain unless you decide that's how you are going to treat it. There is nothing impossible provided you don't give up.
2006-09-05 10:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, family and friends usually offer the best support. Think of it this way..if this guy has cheated on you and isn't trust worthy be glad he is with someone else. He isn't worth your time. Yes it sucks that you have a child and you are going to have another one with this guy but that's life. You need to be strong for your daughter. Try to find a sense of pride in the fact that you are a strong independent women trying to better your life by going to school for law and raising your child. Try to just keep your chin up and think of the good in your life. Anything is possible when you put your mind to it! Best of luck! hope everything works out ok for you
2006-09-05 10:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the fact that you have a wonderful 4 year old and a baby on the way with a awesome, secure and financially stable career ahead of you. Just remind yourself that not only is he a good father to your 4 old, will be for the baby and that you don't need him to care for the kids as you have goals that will let you succeed on your own.
2006-09-05 10:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by tdm1175 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit him where it hurts..his checkbook...get him for child support...he obviously doesnt care about you or his children....if he wants to play hard to find then you play hard to understand why you are getting him for every penny he is worth..once the money for CS starts coming out of his checks he will see how big of an *SS he is....maybe he will even start being nice...you need to move on and stop worrying about him...you have a 4 yr old and an unborn baby to take care of.....talk to family and friends and get them to help you out with whatever you need....I am sure someone won't mind helping you with the kids while you go back to school or work after the baby is born...
2006-09-05 09:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by angelblueyes200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to family and friends for support. Most the time in life if you work hard and stay strong things have a way of working out. Praying is very helpful.
2006-09-05 09:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by zoey m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U can & will make it. U r really emotional right now. Pray, God will help u, I had alot to deal with when I was pregnant. U could give baby up for adoption, but if u r like me no way. Babies r God's blesses to us, I prayed then & always ask him to bless us, Thats how I am making it. God Bless All of U
2006-09-05 10:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refocus. your priorities are not trying to get back with him, your priorites should be focused on the babies. They are your life, try to do whats best with them. Its not going to help if you guys are always argruing and fighting. There are many single parents out there doing a dang fine job.Hang in there, and try to refucus your energy.
2006-09-05 09:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Turn to your family and friends for support.
2006-09-05 09:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋