I'm dating a new a guy who I think is awesome.
I couldn't be more smitten, and up till now, things have been going well. (almost a month) He has left a rose at my door with a nice note to let me know that he is very interested.
He recently left to be at school for two weeks and since leaving, we've talked on the phone regularly, and he texts me sweet things every other day or so. I know his family well (I'm friends w his sister) so I know that he is genuine....ANYWAY-- today sent out a card to him. It was hand painted, (I'm an artist) and simple. Since he is studying German, I wrote I miss you in german on the inside.
So, I thought that it was too simple, and wanted to include a poem...I found one that said how I feel in a cute way. But, now, I'm wondering if I got caught up in the moment...it was short, and compared the days we've spent together to the kind of movie you rewind and watch over and over again...Ugh...now I'm thinking it sounds obsessive. How do I fix this?
2006-09-05 09:49:49 · 17 answers · asked by smarty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like there is nothing to fix. I think you let your emotions show and now you're freaking out about it. Let it go. You let him know how you felt and that's a good thing.
2006-09-05 09:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Happychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're over-thinking this. It sounds like everything is going really well. Keep it going. Do what you've been doing, but in the in-between times...don't obsess!!!!
A good relationship allows you to be a better you. Don't lose yourself to the "us" affect. Get involved in a hobbie, advance your career, what ever...the point is, do what you would do without a man in your life and find the best way to groove your lives together. OK, sure, sacrifice and compromise are parts of a relationship too. Granted. But you can't give so much to the point that it is unbalanced...get it?
Enjoy! Everything's great now!
Good luck!
2006-09-05 16:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by BeZeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already sent it unfortunately you can't fix it. Here is why:
If you take it back in some way or say you made an error not only will you look even sillier, but that may put him off.
there's nothing wrong with getting caught up in the moment and if he asks you why;;
say that you got caught up in the moment-simple as that. If he is truly a genuine nice guy he should not have a problem with that.
Good luck.
2006-09-05 16:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT OBSESSING!
man, he left you a rose by your door, the guy likes you. A card and a poem aren't going to scare him off, but second guessing yourself all the time MIGHT.
And remember - LIFE IS NEVER LIKE THE MOVIES!! So quit trying to compare it to that! If he is still calling and texting you, then there's nothing wrong. Trying to undo something you did ALWAYS ends up being more messy than if you just leave it alone!!
2006-09-05 16:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relaxe you did a good thing, it shows him that you miss him and he will probobily like it very much. He did leave you a rose at your door. Don't freak out about it then you might scare him away.
2006-09-05 16:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT get yourself all worked up about it... When he gets it just joke with him about it... Say yea, I know its mushy, but its all I could find in a rush and I wanted to send it off right away... Dont obsess or lose sleep over this.... YOU found an amazing guy (sounds like) be happy!!
2006-09-05 16:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give the boy a chance. see how he responds. your biggest ally in this situation is time. it sounds as though he is pretty smitten with you too. do not worry. just pray you did not send him an x-rated poem. just kidding. wait and see what happens
2006-09-05 16:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it. more than anything he'll dig that you sent him something at all. most men don't read much into the words, and if he is the kind that does then he's already smitten enough for you not to worry about editting yourself.
2006-09-05 17:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by jude D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you're just "smitten" as you say and are imagining things and overblowing them to ridiculous proportions. Just don't get your knickers in a twist, he hasn't even proposed to you yet.
2006-09-05 16:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt I just answer this? You don't have to fix anything.. he was being romantic with you, you were romantic back that's sweet. Nothing needs fixing.
2006-09-05 16:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋