i talk to him like an adult.. then i say "no" to a relationship... and he insults me by saying i am leading him on.. seems like men + women can't be "just friends". am i right?
2006-09-05 09:47:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yup.
2006-09-05 09:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by MARS1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men hope that women they're attracted to want to sleep with them, and a friendly woman leads them to fantasize about it. Thus it's their own mind that often times leads them on, and not the woman.
However friends usually share in the cost of things, where as with people romantically attracted to one another, the cost is usually paid by the man. Furthermore, we usually only share deep felt personal information with people we are attracted to; a friend, mate or mate potential.
Thus, if a woman allows a male friend to pay for everything, or shares with him things she would only share with a close friend, she gives the signals that she cares for him more than she really may. And how would you feel, if you were falling for someone, thinking them to also be falling for you, only to find out they never were?
I have many female "friends only"; some because that is all I want, and some because that is all they want. However we know where we stand in those relationships, because the right signals are given. Thus there are no hard feelings, or feelings of betrayal.
2006-09-05 10:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because most men are pigs. I have worked in a male dominated field most of my life and got to hear what they said behind women's backs, how they talked about their wives, the lies they told their wives etc.
When I was younger I went to work without a bra on because I had horrible sun burn. I should have stayed home. Every single man I talked to talked to my boobs but one. Thar man earned my respect from that day on because he was the only one that showed me any. Everyone I worked with knew me, and my mom worked there too, they knew I was not a bimbo, but it did not matter. I was at work and not out at a bar. If the one gentlemen(he was not gay) was able to treat me with respect, why weren't the others? Because they are pigs.
They get mad when women only want them for money, but what else do they have to offer?
2006-09-05 10:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a weakness of a man .....that he mostly think about sex ...when he approaches a girl ....or a girl start talking to him.. Ofcourse men and women can be good friends....but there is always a chance of a spark.
2006-09-05 09:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by Peter H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby thinks that, its ok for him to be friends with a female, but if i chat to a bloke he says he want to bed me!
surley him talking to another female is no different, but apparantly it is?
i get on better with men as some women can be very nasty,
some men assume just because your talking to them it means you want things to go further, i haven't worked this out yet
2006-09-05 10:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are correct, we can't be "just friends." Well, we can be just friends if you're like 300 pounds. But, if you're hot, no, we can't be just friends. We have to either be doing it, or not doing it, there's no in between. Sorry. Not my fault. They just made me like this. We have this section of our body that controls most of our actions. Heck, we even build things that mimic it (Eiffel tower, any type of electric "plug in", we could go on and on).
2006-09-05 09:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by rod_j_clifton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every1 gets stuck in this scenario being once or twice...... even if u just meet someone and they clearly trying it on but ur not....... its happened to me where i think i have to talk to him because i dont wanna be mean but i dont feel attracted to him either but when he realises this im blanked.... i dont intentionally go out to hurt him.... i dont know, i was once told i attract the lets call them the weird ones because i am sooo nice... if this is true am i not nice enough for the attractive....frinedly lads? any way glad i got that off my chest!!! thanks lol
2006-09-05 09:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by MissElection 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess thats all men think about, but there are some men that think above that one.
2006-09-05 09:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Woody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men think too highly of themselves. if a guy is like that with me i break contact with him.
2006-09-05 09:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady we want to sleep with women who dont even look at us
being friendly is foreplay!!
2006-09-05 11:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by salforddude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋