Yes, I've asked this questiong already...I just want to hear more from everyone. This guy and eye have been talking for about 8 months, we've become great friends. And all along he's told me he would like to be more than friends. From the start I told him that's not what I was currently looking for, he was so cool and understanding about it. I've come to like him, alot...and he knows this. So now he tells me I have to choose, friends, or a relationship. I chose friends, and told him it's because my parents wont let me date yet (I'm almost 16, he just turned 18). He said he understood. But he still wont give up, and it's not even that that bothers me, I'm only bothered by how he's acting lately. He gets mad and tells me I'm a bad friend because I wont meet him at the top of a hill in our VERY small town, it was dark and my mom wouldn't let me anyway. He got really upset and ignored me for 2 days. Then he was nice again, but things still haven't been the same since.
2006-09-05 09:41:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I want to talk to him about it, but the only way I really can is online or on the phone. I don't want to call him because he's probably at work or with his friends. I can't stop thinking about this and about him, I'm afraid I'm losing him. Even though I know he was a jerk, and I want so badly to be mad at him...I can't.
Help!
2006-09-05 09:42:39 · update #1
I emailed him about this, I told him I wanted to talk to him about some stuff, and briefed him what it was about....I'm sure he knows though...and I've gotten no response.
2006-09-05 09:47:17 · update #2
thanks so much you guys, but I know he's not trying to go "all the way" with me. Just trust me, I live in the smallest town EVER and in this town you've known everyone since first grade...that's not what he wants. He knows I've never had a boyfriend, or even wanted one....I just don't get why he's acting this way suddenly.
Everyone seems to be saying the same thing....I guess for some reason it's just not what I wanted to hear....I suppose I'm denying the facts eh?
Please, keep the great advice coming...
2006-09-05 10:06:45 · update #3
Any "man" acting that possessive when he clearly knows your mother doesn't allow it....is not being a good friend or boyfriend.
If he REALLY cared for you, he'd want to keep you safe, not in trouble with your parents.
2006-09-05 09:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I really understand the battle that's going on in your heart & mind. As an outsider, looking in, I see an 18 year old man who wants you to go all the way with him, without the benefit & security of marriage. That's wrong on his part to expect more than you can give him right now. Since he was okay with it in the beginning, now he's of age, and wants what he wants. NEVER, NEVER give in to a guy when he pressures you. NEVER give in when he tells you to make a choice between sex or breaking up with him. This is a guy that doesn't have YOUR best interests at heart, and just wants to take what you can only give away once. That's a very precious gift that's saved just for your husband. One money can't buy or be replaced. He's not worth the agonizing over. I've got a feeling that he's been getting his needs met elsewhere, that's why he goes from being bothered to acting nice. He keeps coming back because you won't give him what he wants and he thinks he can wear you down. DON'T DO IT!! Let the idiot go. If he is getting his needs met elsewhere, you sure don't want to catch what he might be carrying around. If he can't honor your decision, he's not the guy for you. I'm sure there's a more worthy guy who will be so very pleased that you waited for him. And I'm sure that your parents would be so very proud of you for waiting too. It's the reason they're making you wait until you're 16 before dating. Just look around your school at all the girls who didn't wait. You're in the best possible position right now. You've got a bright future ahead of you. This is the advice I always give to young ladies like yourself. Get your schooling, graduate at the top of your class, win lots of scholarships, go to college, study hard, graduate at the top of your class, get the job of your choice, then...when you're not looking...he'll be there. Everyone knows that girls grow up faster than boys. Besides, guys aren't really mature enough to handle a meaningful relationship until they're at least 25 (for the most part). Stand firm and tell him sorry, but no. If he can't understand no, spell it for him. <*)))><
2006-09-05 16:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is only after 1 thing. he is acting very suave to try to get you to give and have sex with him. if he was truly ok with the situation, he would not pressure you or act like a jerk when you set boundaries. listen to your instincts. you women have an intuition that science can not unlock. be good and obey your folks
2006-09-05 16:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do need to talk to him. An email might be best because you need to tell him exactly how you feel. Everything you just told us. You appreciate him, you like him, but you can't date him. It isn't your fault and he needs to recognize that.
You aren't an adult yet, so you can't do all the things he wants you to do with him, let him know it isn't your fault that you couldn't meet him, you weren't allowed.
2006-09-05 16:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by laura.ispurple 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hon it sounds like he wantys 2 have sex with u be careful no guys gets mad if u says he understands thats crazy maybe u should just be friends and never lead him on at all!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-05 16:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by sxcherie69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need him. If he can't agree to your terms, then find someone who will. Don't do something that you will regret. It's not worth it.
2006-09-05 16:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋