Husband texting, went from "oh im surfing the net on my phone" to Its "None of your buisness who im texting, or calling."
2006-09-05 09:39:38 · 30 answers · asked by zeena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, oh yeah I'd be concerned. I would say also a big clue here is that he went from telling you"I'm just surfing the Net on the phone" to "I don't have to tell you who I am texting or calling.." Not a good sign. I would find out asap!!! You are married, you have the right to know what is going on. Are you together? Are there issues underlying all of this? All of this needs to be communicated and get it out there!! When things sit too long in your mind, or even in his, then problems start piling up. Marriage takes two, and it also is a lot of work. Some days, months, years better than others, but the important key here is to communicate. Why not tell you what he is doing? What has he got to hide? It sounds weird to me if you are in an open,loving, honest marriage. I hate to hear this stuff, my heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my thoughts. Just know, no matter what happens or is happening, you will be fine, you are stronger than you may even realize!!! Please feel free to email me if you need to talk or vent. Good luck! Get to a good therapist if things continue this way and one of you isn't able to talk about stuff. There sounds like something is up!
2006-09-05 09:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive actually seen this happen to one of my good friends she didnt think anything about it,then she got the cell phone bill and within a 48 hr period she found her husband had text the same person at the same number over 200 times so she sent a text to the # thinking it was just one of his frat brothers from college and guess what it wasnt it was the other woman who had the nerve to tell her that she was the other woman so before this happened I would have never thought anything about it because I dont even look at my Husbands cell and he doesnt bother mine thats just the way we do it but yes I would definitely ask or find out what the h ells going on if my Husband did something like that.Maybe you should give him a dose of his own medicine and when he wants to know whats going on just say none of your business Im surfing the net leave me alone I can almost guarantee you one thing hes definitely not going to understand.
2006-09-05 17:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are four possibilities. Three of them are bad.
1) He's planning a surprise for you.
2) He's cheating on you.
3) He has a gambling problem.
4) He has a drug problem.
I'm sorry to say that number 2 is the most likely.
Gather the evidence. Confront him strongly and directly. Ask him if he wants to save the marriage or move on. Demand an answer.
2006-09-05 16:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's most likely the start of a relationship, at least that's sure how he makes it sound when he refuses to communicate with you about your feelings on it! (How inconsiderate!) I am so sorry. Threaten to leave now, and actually find your own place and get out, and if he is really yours he will give his head a shake and beg you to come home! (you'll see!) If he is not yours he will continue being a scumbag who doesn't deserve you. I would install some software onto your PC as well. That would help you catch him so he can't deny it should he actually be the jerk he seems to be right now.
2006-09-05 16:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it's time to call the phone company and have his wireless shut off until he got the wires in his head rerouted.... or you can always yank it away from him and drop it in the toilet... both work... I did that to my ex of whom I was married too for 20 yrs while eating dinner out at a nice restaraunt one evening... I took it and dropped in a tea pitcher at the wait station!!
2006-09-05 16:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems a little scetchy. It IS your business who he is calling and texting! You are his wife! You should try to get a hold of his phone and see if you can figure it out. I think you are justified in doing that since he's not being truthful.
2006-09-05 16:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by silver_daz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's up to something. Check the call log or bill. Keep asking him until he shows you.
If he was honest, he wouldn't have to hide a thing!
2006-09-05 16:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has his head in the game =) .. be smart about this type of issues, it can explode right on your face and dont expect to come out w/out a scratch either .
2006-09-05 16:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know in your gut the answer to your question.
Unless your 40th birthday is in 3 weeks and he's planning you a huge surprise party, he is screwing around behind your back.
2006-09-05 16:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, I'm with Valerie. That crap wouldn't fly at my house. Take the phone & find out what's going on!
2006-09-05 16:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋