My friends generally see me as a fun, humourous and to an extent foolish person - i like making people laugh but now because of that, i have found that they dont seem to respect me as much as they respect my other friends (did that make sense?)
Just want them to respect me a bit more so that they know that they cannot take advantage of my good-nature the way they have done so far.
2006-09-05 09:33:42 · 13 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You've pretty much answered your own question. It sounds like you need to be a bit firmer once in a while. Don't back out of an arguement, and stick to your guns!
2006-09-05 09:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it makes sense. People will see you as the "funny" girl and won't see you for your full worth and what you are deeper in yourself.
It is human nature to take advantage of others. If you want to earn respect you will have to be more mean, to let them chase you instead. You will have to make new friends, be independent. Start making money with a job, study more at school to get better grades, train hard and exercise to get a tough body that commands respect.
Stop making jokes and stop making people laugh. Start building self-confidence and self worth. Make money and save your money.
Don't hang anymore with those who really don't respect you. Find a group of friends that will make you feel important and respected.
Get into sports and competition and win, that way you will most certainly be respected. Be the best at your class and that way they will come to you for answers and help and make them pay this back by respect. They will beg you for help and humiliate themselves for help and that way you will get the advantage.
2006-09-05 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Technotron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have some awkward moments when you start "turning things around," so be very aware of that, and be prepared.
But, when you think someone is stepping on you, tell them, and don't be nice about it. They won't know how to deal with it at first because they haven't had to deal with it before. But, you will find out who your true friends are quickly. Of course, don't be immature about telling them...in fact, you might prepare what you want to say to them ahead of time. Rehearse it, know it. It's better when it sounds like it is natural.
Also, remember that you will have friends that will go along with it at first, but forget later, and repeat their same mistakes. You have to have a standard set, and not back down. Just continue to do lay down the law, and if they are repeat offenders, then you will have to take time away from them.
Finally, there are WAY too many eligible friends out there, and there are many of them that are willing to start a relationship with you where you are respected like you want to be. I was/am a goofy, funny person too, but people know that they can't step on me.
2006-09-05 16:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by rod_j_clifton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you want to gain respect you have to give respect. Then always do what you say you're going to do. Don't change your mind along the way. Try not to say something that you're not sure of because then they'd think you're supposedly still foollish. Just kinda know your limits and let them know that you're not comfortable with them taking you for granted.
2006-09-05 16:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by clarevale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live your life in a way that you can respect yourself and don't worry about what other people think. True friends will love you and respect you for who you are.
2006-09-05 16:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by etngapech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect has to be earned, explain to your friends that you feel you are being taken advantage of, and veiwed as a comic, but you are not happy, let them see that you mean what you say, true friends will respect you for speaking out and letting them know how you feel, if they dont. then they are not real friends, dump them
2006-09-05 16:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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try some of these sites for advice.
2006-09-05 16:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss my Putt! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't "gain" respect, you "earn" it. good luck in achieving this.
the best way is to respect yourself first.
2006-09-05 19:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ans is simple stop being a clown and be urself the thing that ur most good at.
2006-09-05 16:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by dedclever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start being a bit bitchier toward them, they'll like that
2006-09-05 16:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋