Why do women run down other women - tired of hearing the 'I get on better with men..would rather work with men

Question

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To me it is all part of the socialising which takes place putting more value on the male. The notion that women are 'more bitchy' has been proven to be false yet this myth prevails and women en mass reject their own sex and defend/revere and seek the approval attention of men.

I like men - don't get me wrong - well the good ones anyway but I wonder how much of this statement which I hear all the time is explained in the following psychology experiment -

At age 3 children are offered a black or white doll. No clear preference at that age is shown. By 5 even the black or asian children opt for the white doll by and large. Shockingly they have internalised the notion that white is better due to cultural influences - does the same happen with gender?

Answer 1

LOL - I worked for a fortune 500 company that was like 90% woman..me being a tech guy, I had fun seeing the PMS during those weeks...some weeks are better than others.

Answer 2

I think the answer to your first question is threefold.
Firstly, that women are still, and forever will be, in competition with each other for male mates, Recent press surveys have shown that women have unrealistic expectations of men so are bound to compete for Mr. Above Average rather than settle for Mr Goodenough. So psyching other women out by inferring they are not worthy of attention makes them feel like they have a little bit of a competitive edge.
Secondly, women who hold these views get more positive attention from men if their attitude towards men is more positive than it is towards women, as they openly admit. If she goes round saying ‘I don’t like you’ she's not going to get many positive vibes in return and it’s a self fulfilling circle.

“To me it is all part of the socialising which takes place putting more value on the male”.

Perhaps the root of girls being socialised into placing more value in the male is related to the fact of life that if they are to reproduce then they will need to value a male, for at least a minute or two.

“The notion that women are 'more bitchy' has been proven to be false” yet is still the opening of your question – so has it really been proven to be false?

“ I like men - don't get me wrong - well the good ones anyway “ ah… perhaps it’s those expectations creeping in there. Viewing men through a female telescope always distorts the image. I’m sure men are equally tired of the mantra “there’s no good men out there” etc.

Answer 3

I personally think that women who say 'I only get on with men because women are bitchy' are 9 times out of 10 bitchy themselves.

Women need other women. I wonder if the women that do say the above comment did not get on with their mothers?

I worked in an all male environment last year in construction and although it was good and fun, there were times when I wish I could of spoken to another female.

And plus I had to share a toilet with the men!!!!

Answer 4

Maybe we are just easier to get on with. We can laugh and joke, and have a bit of banter, whereas women would consider such things as catty or bitchy. We can make fun of hair, cloths, weight and look out if someone is a bit slow at getting their round in at the bar. Its all in good fun, as long as you give as good as you get. If a group of women tried this there would be skin and hair flying in no time.
Sorry don't know about the dolls.

Answer 5

I don't see preferring the company of men as "running down" women. I bet that, if you asked a group of men the same question, there would be a certain number of them that prefer the company of women. (In fact, I have had several "guy friends" who felt this way.) I think that everyone has some "male" traits and some "female" traits and, based on how that proportion pans out, they may get along better with their own gender or they may get along better with the opposite gender.

Answer 6

I really think it is how you are raised... i was raised to be independant, not to believe everything i see or hear, and that i don't need a man to survive in this world.....i prefer to work and get along with others dispite their sex.... i beleive that women and men are for the greatest part equal, and that bitchy women just bang heads with other women.

Answer 7

it rather is approximately what the media glamorizes nevertheless in on a daily basis existence I doubt human beings sense extra suited approximately black male/white woman relationships than the opposite. One seems extra pushed with the help of stereotypes and "the in element" while the different often comes out of a love that has not something to do with such issues yet oh nicely

Answer 8

Yes. A lot of women's self esteem is so low that they can't accept other women as equal or better than men. Look at the way women are bitching about women politicians (not that some of them don't deserve it) there is always this "uppity cow" feeling in the air.

Answer 9

You are somewhat right. I agree with you that women always (well mostly) like making friends with men rather than women of their age...We can all blame it to 'Jelousy' part of women traits. Men deal with compition differently and women with jelousy and being '*****' (Sorry, couldnt get any other word). Men usually do not try to break between the girl he likes and her boyfriend if they are going alright...and moves on or waits for the right time....on the other hand women when finds the man she likes....even if he is in relationship...she tries to break their relationship.....

Well this is not generalized....and exceptions has a huge share if not major. We are not talking about nice women.

There is one more thing......women find it hard to find a right men as there is not much scope for her to find one rather than waiting for the right one to propose of approach her....on the other hand ...men can (do) easily approach diff. women to find his right one .....so loosing one usually does not cause him to being a Son of ***** (I dont know why does he not called Dog only).

In Black and Asian cultures...fair colour is considerd good and that is why they easily go for fair men or women....like in white community...people want to have tanned skin...!!!

Answer 10

Yes. Though most Indians are brown or weatish in color, their men are mostly looking for 'fair' looking brides. You have to go through the Matrimonial columns of their newspapers to prove the point.

I have seen very few women keep in touch with their high school girl friends. It appears to me that their friendship with other women does not last long in most cases.