Question about long distance relationships?

Question

Has anyone met their soulmate online? How did it work out?

We have long range goals to both move.

Answer 1

i think it is possible. . . i mean, the world is so big, how can we possibly only choose from our immediate surroundings when technology allows us to aspire to so much more?

Answer 2

I would say it has no less validity then any other form of relationship, because it is all about connection between you and another person. Long distance means you have to work harder, but then some might argue that's better as then you really know the relationship is something special. If it's meant to be you'll work around your obstacles, whatever they might be. So, don't let the cynics put you off. I am living proof long distance can and does work.

Answer 3

Randy, while I am now single I can say they do work. When I met my last lover he was in the military and lived 3 hours away and constently gone in the field. It is rough and take a huge amount of trust in each other. It takes a lot of work and sacrafice Making sure you each talk everyday is key, and making the effort to see each other as often as possible. It can work. Just know it is not for everyone.

It sounds like more discussion needs to happen for the both of you, and it sounds liek you two need to put in place some goals on when to see each other, and when a move would take place.

If it feels right go for it.

Answer 4

if both of you are definitely moving to physically live together then it's ok to continue otherwise it will just fizzle out. the trust issue is just too strong. you can't see the person so you don't know how truthful the person is and if one day you accidentally or intentionally find out something bad then everything will start to crumble.

I've been in a 12 year soul mate relationship (4 years long distance). i was dishonest to the person, the other person was dishonest to me. i found out about it, i dumped the person even though it's both party's fault coz i realised it would not work out for both of us.

Answer 5

I thought I did but she wouldn't wait for me. We only lived 5 hours apart. But she wanted someone to move in NOW and I wanted to be sure since I was from another country. I will love her until the day I die, but................I think they CAN work if both are stable and realistic about it. But I just read where most of the men and women who put their profiles online are "flakes." I CAN tell you I met a lot of women who put pictures of themselves on that were more that 10 years old!!!!!!!!!!! ANd the discriptions of themselves are more like what they would LIKE to be rather than who they actually are.

Answer 6

I have a litte brother who has met his 'sould mate' hundreds of times on-line. And a friend who has done the same thing...so far for them it has yet to ever work out.

I say buy a lottery ticket and you have the same chances of it being the winning ticket as a LDR working out when you met on-line.

Sorry because frankly you seem like a wonderful person and I wish I could answer differently to you.

Answer 7

oh god! long distance relationships never work out, its a waste of time. what kind of relationship is it if you cant even see the person? how pathetic and unhealthy is that?! VERY! its stupid and pointless and a waste of time if you ask me ESPECIALLY if you met them online, they live like on the other side of the country and you never did see them and have no way to see them. SO SO PATHETIC! no such thing as a soul mate you've met online. she could be sending you a picture of a hot girl. but how do you know that is really not an 86 year old hermaphrodite that like to rape kittens?

Answer 8

well, my ex was long distance. we met online in a chat room. we flew back and forth, and we did have some good times, but in the long run, it didn't work out. she was such a closet case she wouldn't even admit to herself (or me) that she was lesbian. she lied about a lot of other things as well. she was (still is) legally married, and even though she said it would end, it never did (I was foolish to believe it). I think that he is still her "cover" so others won't figure out she's really lesbian. I guess I was lonely and naive and was in love with someone loving me....but I should have never gotten involved in the first place. they say hindsight is 20/20.

Answer 9

I thought I did.......BUT then he's their and Im here and we live more then 500 miles away, and It'll never work out......you have your differences and one isn't gonna give up something for the other especially if their are children involved. I think more or less it'll be best just to be FRIENDS if anything.....Since first of all you got to know one another and what the like/dislike.

Answer 10

Honestly, I found long distance relationships very very difficult...maybe if you can move together it would help. I'm Canadian / he was American..this was before gay marriage was legal...the relationship was doomed....but has become a great memory. Good Luck.

Answer 11

DON'T DO IT!!!!

Seriously, if someone lives too far away, it totally sucks. Meet someone close to your town, never try to meet someone that lives even an hour away. It just can't work out. One of you will have to move, eventually.