MY DAD IS TEACHING ME HOW TO DRIVE AND IT IS REALLY STRESSING ME OUT BECAUSE HE MAKES ME SOOOO NERVOUS.HE YELLS AND SCREAMS AT ME.I DON'T HAVE A CHOICE BUT TO DO WHAT HE SAYS.I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW I CAN LEARN WITHOUT MAKING MISTAKES.AT FIRST I WAS DRIVING GREAT NOW I GET NERVOUS BECAUSE HE YELLS SOOO MUCH.HE CALLS ME NAMES AND CURSES AT ME.I CRY AND CRY...I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.IT'S MAKING MY LIFE HELL.PLEASE HELP!!..THANK YOU,
2006-09-05 09:20:04 · 10 answers · asked by LVE_1988 1 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
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My dad was the same way with me. Finally I just said, thanks but no thanks and I went to Driver's Ed.
We laughed about it for years afterwards - don't let it ruin your relationship with your dad.
Some people just weren't meant to be teachers, nor can they handle the stress of not being able to control from the passenger's side.
He doesn't mean to insult you or stress you out.
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2006-09-05 09:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I starred your question, because I hope you'd get more advice. I'm reallyy sorry you're going through this. Just a note - many of the Y&Aers on here are pro-parent (I know; Ive had many trouble with my parents, stuff that wasnt my fault, went here for help, and was told stuff like "you should be grateful you live in a house!" And stuff like that) so just ignore them. Maybe you should suggest family counselling. Talk to an operator over the phone. Do your two parents argue with each other a lot? Maybe they have a lot of stress and are dealing with it by yelling at you, which is NOT good. You can also try getting a job and renting an apartment (just take a bus if you cant drive) Dont worry, you'll find help. Things WILL get better, trust me. I dont know your age, but I can guarentee you that you have many years to come and you'll experience new and greater things. Hope you get help, all blessings to you.
2016-03-13 05:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my driving teacher, but I was paying for lessons so i sent in a complaint and got a new teacher. I think it's very hard driving when someone is yelling at you and makes you screw up because half your mind is occupied on NOT SCREWING UP instead of driving. it's like listening to music at full blast talking on a cell phone smoking and drinking a coffee and trying to drive while talking to 3 passengers. I know where you're coming from. I'd say get a friend to take you out, or your mom or some other relative like an uncle.
2006-09-05 09:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No Yelling Driving
2016-12-18 07:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by mink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I taught my future wife (this was a LONG time ago) to drive after her similar experience with my future father in law. I also taught our teen aged daughter to drive in a car with a manual transmission. Yelling, profanity or unhappiness was not my method. My personal opinion is that any teacher/student situation will never work unless there is mutually satisfactory interaction - period. Maybe you should have thicker skin, maybe your father should have more patience. The likelihood either of you will change is not great. I would think Ann Landers would recommend that you talk to your dad about how you feel - in case that is not already obvious. That failing, find someone else to teach you. Your mother will be particularly grateful!
2006-09-05 09:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by db79300 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being a parent is tough, especially when your a Dad teaching a teen how to drive. Let me suggest picking up a copy of AutoWeek magazine dated September 4,2006 or www.autoweek.com This issue has 15 pages of a special report on driver education and how we as parents are failing our children on how they shoud handle a vehicle.
2006-09-05 09:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you shouldn't learn to drive with your parents.
When my daughter was learning to drive I remember her mother in the back seat screaming "We're all going to die!". Family is too close to you for good drivers ed. Use what the school provides.
By the way, the road is no place to be learing by making mistakes...
2006-09-05 09:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive with someone else. My parents were doing the same thing to my sister so she had my brother and me take her driving. It always looked like she was going to hit the next car (I made her practice in an almost empty parking lot) or the next tree so I'd scold her, just like Mom and Dad. My brother was more patient/trusting/oblivious so she liked practicing with him. She now has her license.
Those of us that are scolding/yelling/screaming are control freaks and not having control (of the car) freaks us out. We aren't seeing you as the adult you are. I felt bad about scolding my sister, but I am understandably nervous when we're heading directly at that tree and she isn't swerving!
Find someone else to drive with. And find a big, empty parking lot. Pay attention to where you are going and what is happening around you. Turn that d*m cell phone off. I don't mean the ringer, I mean the phone. Turn the radio off while you're at it. The car you're driving is several thousand pounds and many thousand dollars. It can wipe out a lamp post, shopping cart, another car or the side of a building pretty quickly. Driving is hard enough without additional distractions. Which brings me to your Dad yelling and screaming and being a major distraction. DEAL WITH IT. When you finally have your license and some jerk honks his horn at you and calls you names because he thinks you cut him off, what are you going to do? That will be a distraction! And what about when you are with your friends and the radio is blaring and that cell phone goes off, what are you going to do? Another distraction! And what about when you see that cute kid you want a date with and he smiles at you? Major distraction! Learn to deal with it. Or stop the car until you calm down.
Once you get good at driving around the parking lot, study your neighborhood. Pay attention to the lane(s) your friends/parents use when driving to different locations. When you find yourself in the wrong lane (it will happen more times than you know) don't cut across two or three lanes. Go around the block. Those other cars (and trucks and buses) all weigh thousands of pounds too. Worse, the kid on a bicycle or that girl on a motorcycle don't have thousands of pounds of protection around them. Go around the block.
Sorry for the lecture. But there are too many bad drivers out there and I don't want to be yelling and honking at YOU!
Good luck!
2006-09-05 09:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
to bad schools cancelled what used to be called "drivers ed".everyone knows a family member should never teach another family member to drive-its a recipe for yelling and tears !!!! why-bcause unfortunately its human nature to treat ones family in ways u'd be appalled to treat a stranger !wisely,my mother refused to teach me for this reason.if u or ur parents can possibly agree to proffessional lessons,it would save all of u a lot of angst.good luck !!!! by the way,ur father is verbally abusive.go to college when ur old enough,work thru ur semester breaks and dont return home to live-get roommates,after college.u'll get along better with him once ur out on ur own take care ,hang in,and good luck !!!!!
2006-09-05 09:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we've all been through it at one point,. Just bare with it and look at the positive sides of it all.
2006-09-05 09:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋