Question about a certain action that my hub has done??

Question

Finally my nightmare will come to and end tomorrow. You see it has not been fun collecting all this info about my hub and another woman. My husband and that other woman who is also married and we all happen to be good common friends, those two kissed and made out 2 years ago at the woman..Sara's place. Then those two told each other they were not doing any more kissing again, or anything more. Wel at public parties, my husband and Sara have always stared at each other, they gazed in each others eyes, they have talked, flirted, they have danced closely together, and I remember a time along with Sara's hub when my hub and Sara hugged as if they had a breakup and were making up or something. What it felt like to us was the end to whatever they had going...but it was weird cause the whole time my hub was persistently hugging Sara in the still position and she was upset at first seemed to ask him why, then she hugged him back and they kept hugging in silence even more! Why?? Even though

since 1.5 years we have moved to another state like 7 hours away from Sara...when my hub goes there for business trip and he invites her hub and sara and others to dinner or something, he is always looking and observing sara in her eyes, and sara also looks in my hubs eyes. Even 3 weeks ago which happens to be 1 year after there long hug, he still looked in her eyes, stared and gazed in her eyes. Well it also seems that from a year Sara has the habit of writing my hub emails at his work, and at myspace as well. The emails are about her life, her mom, her job, how my hub is doing, what his plans are more like friendlier emails. what gets me though is my hub replies back to her every single time and if she has her mom sick or she had to tell him about her grades or about something personal..she would tell my hub first and he would gladly reply back to her giving her support? Why do you suppose? Tomorrow sara and her hub are coming to see us and i am hoping to tell him and her that sara

and my hub have had this relationship going and it doesn't seem to end and the 4 of us are going to have a long talk. And what did that goodbye hug mean last year mean...nothing right? He still admires her right? Why does he still observe Sara and reply to her all the time? The personal emails she writes him first before anyone, should tell him that she loves him, so when he replies to her in a good sense, that means he really cares and admires her right? and he does observe her and look in her eyes. Well Sara and her hub are coming tomorrow and we are all going to talk about those 2.

Answer 1

Do you suspect cheating? Or is it just that you object to the friendship? Either way, if it bothers you, hubby should have quit. Why in the world would you want to get together with her and her husband, if you don't want hubby to have contact with her?

Answer 2

I would sit down on your own tonight with your husband and ask him what is going on and tell him that you are concerned. Tell him that you have noticed that there are certain things that have happened and give him examples and if you know your husband like you should than you should be able to tell if he is lying or talking to you from the heart. There may be something there or there may not but you may never know until you ask. My husband had a situation like that when we first got married and it was a woman that he dated a long long time ago and obviously slept with. They stayed friends afterwards and were always there when the other was in need. Shortly after us getting married she had a few times where she would be really really upset about something and call my husband at all hours of the night to talk and he would get out of bed and go in the living room or somewhere else in the house to talk to her. I told him that it bothered me and we talked through it and that's when he explained their history and how they promised each other that no matter what they would always be there for the other in their time of need. I grew a stronger respect for my husband knowing that he kept that kind of promise and was still loyal to me while being loyal to a friend as well. You have to know for yourself though that he is telling the truth and jealousy will eat you if you aren't sure!!

Answer 3

Wow. You sure have a lot going on with this Sara woman and your husband. It is enough to drive a woman crazy. You have to decide how important this is to you. Really it isn't between you Sara and your husband. It's between you and your husband. He seems to be open with you about her since he let you know about the emails (I hope he let you know).

If it bothers you that much you should tell your husband how you feel. Don't wait for an uncomfortable confrontation between Sara and her husband. I'm sure he has feelings of his own about it. Are you willing to stay with your husband if he keeps talking to her? Maybe you can just say to him, "Honey, if you are going to continue this "friendship" with Sara it is going to do long term damage to our relationship." Explain to him why.

On a different note, maybe the public confrontation will end it all just because a lot of times affairs feel good because of the sneaking. You just don't want to feel like a lunatic and then have to look at them for the rest of the weekend. Tread lightly.

Answer 4

hi there ,i dont really understand why youreon here asking this question if youre going to have it out with this pair 2morrow night when youre question is still going to be open for 3 days !!?? anyway i dontunderstand why you have let this go for 2 years and not done anything dont you think that hey could just be good friends and thats all ......it is possible ....and it also could be that youre either jealous or youre looking for away out of this relationship .........i hopeyouve thought this through properly as you could be opening up a can of worms that you cant control ......id be very careful if i was you ....i hope youve got youre facts right ! good luck xx

Answer 5

You need to do some butt kicking, Not only sara's but, your husbands also. Theres a line that so called friends don't cross. Wake up woman. Good luck,

Answer 6

nicely, you took a strong first step in replacing your telephone variety. Congrats. Why do you miss him? it really is a complicated one for a stranger to respond to, yet i will supply it a shot? per chance you miss countless the elements of your courting with him that your husband doesn't quite relate to. have you ever seen speaking on your husband about experimenting with new issues. per chance in case you and your husband fill the desire you've, it may help you to ignore the bloke. Congrats on ending it through the way. Congrats on telling your husband. And am so satisfied you too were waiting to initiate getting previous it. in case you could seek for suggestion from from him about that affair, you could seek for suggestion from from him about your sex life. there is no longer something to be ashamed about for liking sorts of sex... final analysis... per chance you at the prompt are not pining for the bloke, yet pining for the flaws he used to do for you. If i'm incorrect about this, the answer is a lot more beneficial complicated. It takes time to ignore someone you once cared for. each and every each and every now and then you under no circumstances ignore. All i visit claim is that aspect enables those emotions fade and take solice understanding that you made the right decision.

Answer 7

Wow you difiantly have been doing your research
If it were me I couldn't stand to know that my husband was in love with another woman (Mine cheated with our friend too)
The sex part didn't upset me it was the emotional connection that killed it for me. I am so sorry I do understand how you feel And I will say a pray of strength for you when you bring it out into the open that you will be strong

Answer 8

I dont think this is a good idea.I think you should accept the fact your husband has cheated with this woman,she and her husband are no friends of yours.He is doing all of this right in front of you as he is proud of himself ,he is a jerk ,get rid of him.

Answer 9

I hope everything works out for you...sounds like a messy situation.

Answer 10

you need to tell sarah you are unhappy with what she is doing, and if she doesnt back off, maybe you will talk to her husband