Tell my wife or just act like it didnt happen?

Question

My wifes sister wants me to do her. She has always been a little flirt but over the long weekend she took it to the next level.

According to her my wife and her talk openly about sex and now she says she wants to find out about me for herself.

I told her that I could never do that to my wife and her responce was " but you didnt say you dont want to" at that point my wife returned from inside and that was the end of the talk.

I dont know if I should tell my wife or not.
on one hand I dont want to make a big issue between them
on the other hand if I dont tell her it's like I am hiding something.

If my brother tried that w/my wife I'd want to know...... but that being said I also know what I'd do to him if that happened and that is the part I am trying to prevent.

I am now wondering if my wife put her up to it just to see if I say anything or not.

Answer 1

You might want to tell her because my first reaction to reading your statement was '' it's a set-up"...
It's fun to play with fire but that one sounds like arson...
Tell your and act like you were offended, your wife will be so happy that you were so honest. (even if it's all a fake) that's what she wants to hear.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

Wow, that complicated. Honesty is the best policy. You shouldn't hide anything from your wife. She needs to know what her sister is doing. Aslo, tell her sister to back off. You married your wife, NOT her. If the sister had any respect at all for you or your wife she wouldn't be acting this way. It's doesn't matter how attracted she thinks she is to you, you are married!! You are off limits to her. She'll just have to deal and move on. She need to find a single man of her own..

Maybe you need jo confront your wife about discussing your sex life with her sister in so much detail. Let her know what's happening because of it.

You owe it to your wife to be open with her. Otherwise that crazy sister may tell her own twisted version of whats going on.

Glad I'm not in your shoes!! That's a touchy situation, but what's more important, your relationship with your wife or her sister? And is her relationship with you more important than her relationship with her sister?

Answer 3

Talk to you wife. It is better to have everything in the open. And even if it becomes an issue between her and her sister, it is not your problem--as long as you do not cheat on your wife. I would stay away from that evil sister, she will get you in trouble. You might lose your wife over someone who is not worth it.

Answer 4

Tell your wife but tell her that her sister is too much of a flirt and that you KNOW she is just teasing you but that you are just too uncomfortable with this little joke of hers. If you ask your wife to help she will handle it and if you keep with the idea that it is just a joke then the "attraction" issue should stay out of it. Stay away from the sister- she is trouble and sounds like she has competition issues with your wife.

Answer 5

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You just added that you are now thinking your wife put her up to it... I AGREE!

That is totally something I would do. I think if your wife and her sister are so open about sex, then they are likely close and think this is a funny joke to pull on you, as well as a means to see your TRUE COLORS.

Try not to make a big deal about it, but casually mention it over dinner or in front of the TV, "Your sister is one wacky chick! I know you and her talk and joke about sex, but I'd prefer to be left out of it! She was joking around this weekend, saying how she'd heard so much about my body that she wanted to see it for herself!" -- and then test the waters ... wait to see what your wife responds with, and take it from there.

That way,
1. You have "come clean" and aren't keeping anything from her
2. You have pointed out that you aren't interested in the sister or her jokes
3. You haven't caused a huge family risk, because you've "diminished" what the sister actually said. (and if your wife put her up to it and says that the sister really said much worse, just say, "Well I wasn't hanging on her every word, Lisa, it was uncomfortable, but I got the gist!"
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Answer 6

Your wife and her sister could be just playing mind games with you or your sis in law could very well be srious I think you should talk to your wife about this but be prepared she may very well not believe you because after all thats her sister so maybe you should confront her sister while the three of you are maybe hanging out or when she comes to visit your wife or if the two of them are playing mind games your wife may want to know why its taken you so long to come to her about it she may think that maybe you are thinking about doing it.

Answer 7

I don't know why men are so stupid...
You need to put you wifes sister in her place. Tell her hell no, you don't want to do her, And tell your wife what her sister has done. Don't have your wife find out about this later, from someone else. Yeah, why didn't you say you didn't want to do this. Just you couldn't do that to your wife???? Men, are so stupid. Things they say, things they should have said. Do the right thing. good luck,

Answer 8

TELL YOUR WIFE. If her sister is such a back-door dealing little b*tch, you don't know what she could take it into her head to say to your wife if she feels rejected. Her story could be that you tried to RAPE her or something (hard to believe, but some women are like that) You do not owe this woman any loyalty, and I would be VERY careful to NEVER be alone with this woman again.

Answer 9

Just leave it alone. Dont say anything to your wife and act like nothings been said to your sister in law. If you just ride it out and dont react all will work out. The best course of action is no action...its not like shes taking your pants down and starting something so just let things alone.

Answer 10

You have your feet very close to a fire. I think you better tell the sister to back off and that you love your wife. Leave it at that unless your sister-in-law starts trying to stab you in the back with her. Then you might have to fess up to your wife.

Don't scr*w the sister. That should go without saying but .......

Answer 11

Yes tell your wife, that will put a stop to this once and for all. Or you could tell her to stop, and if you don't I'll till your sister, and tell her she should have more respect for her sister.Tell her you love your wife, and you do not want any problems.