2006-09-05 09:09:53 · 13 answers · asked by juzwanderin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not what's right or what's wrong ... it's about making each other happy ... !
If she doesn't like doing it ... talk to her and find out why ... maybe if you make her totally comfortable with the subject and let her know how much it would please you ... she might be willing to compromise ... !
It's all about communication ... talk to her without making her feel ignorant, slutty or a prude ... talk to her like your wife, your one and only ... the one who is suppose to be with you forever ... remind her how long that can be if you two really talk about your needs, desires & fantacies ... sex can be fun and truly open when you're comfortalbe ... !
2006-09-05 09:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you love her and want to make her happy. If she refuses to give you oral ask her why, talk it out with her. Don't be childish about it though by saying that because she wont give you oral that you wont either. Talk it through and tell her how you feel. Ask her why she wont do it....is it because she doens't like it....did she have a bad situation with it in the past.....was she forced to it and now she fears it.....do you smell or taste funny downstairs....there are 101 reasons why she may not do it and you may find out she doesn't realize that you want it! My husband understands that I have a fear of it because of something that happened to me and he doesn't care for it so I don't give him oral unless I am in a weird mood and want to! It's not expected and my husband still gives me oral, but I don't expect it from him either. It has to be mutual for it to work! make compromises.
2006-09-05 09:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Misty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If giving your wife oral makes you ( and her ) happy continue to work !
2006-09-06 08:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by pharaoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if she ever did it. If you have been giving it without her giving you why should you stop. Now if it was something that you guys talked about doing to eachother than I would suggest you talk to her about why she stopped.
Before you stop, talk with her, remember she is your wife, your partner in life.
Godd luck buddy
2006-09-05 09:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by ???///??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess I'm lucky because my gf and I both love giving AND receiving !!!! For all of these selfish people who answered that told YOU to not be selfish and that you should keep doing it for your gf because it makes her happy.............doesn't making you happy factor into this equation ???
If I were you I would stop doing it until she asked for it.....and that's when it becomes a give and take and you get want you want as well
2006-09-05 09:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,don't be shallow or selfish making love to your wife.Give her what makes her happy and in time she'll give you happiness in return.But you can't force her to do something she's not comfortable doing,it takes time for these things to develop.Talk to her about your wishes and give her time.Good luck.
2006-09-05 09:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop for awhile and see if she says anything - if she ever asks why you stopped, tell her, but be nice about it.
2006-09-05 09:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ,just because you are into oral,it does mean that she have to be,maybe if you let her be ,she will want to do it one day..
2006-09-05 09:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
UMM, I DON'T FIND IT WRONG..CUZ I'D BE MAD IF MY BOYFRIEND STOPPED GIVING ME ORAL..I'D PROBABLY STOP DOING IT TO HIM TOO..
2006-09-05 09:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Fabe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
time to leave her if she doesnt go down on you tell her shes history
2006-09-05 13:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋