Where is the foreplay?

Question

My husband goes straight for sex and forgets all about the foreplay. I've mentioned this to him but he takes it as criticism, He's never been a very affectionate man, but you'd think he would be in the bedroom. Don't know what to do>>

Answer 1

why are you waiting for him....create the foreplay yourself and just push him aside when he gets too forceful....basically, be in control- trust me, I know what it's like to just get it done and it's never as satisfying if there is no foreplay

Answer 2

try counseling there might b a reason he's not affctionate. Don't make it seems like its his problem make it as though you have a problem as a couple. It depends on how u ask for foreplay too. There are different options out there if it doesn't work there is always more fish out in the sea.

Answer 3

Try something new before he comes home. I had an ex-girlfriend who wore a maid's outfit with a thong underneath. She dusted me with a feather duster in all the right places. Everyday after that foreplay was a major part of our relationship. Roleplay was fun. Just try something different every time.

Answer 4

Say "No foreplay, no sex." If he knows that you love foreplay and he won't give it to you, say "Oh, I'm not in the mood." He will do anything to get you in the mood. If he still won't, ask him why. Maybe he's really shy about his techniques. Or he doesn't know how to 'do you' right. Talk.

Answer 5

I don't know how to change someone who doesn't want to change. He was compelling enough for you to marry him despite him lacking in the sex department - is your marriage compelling enough for you to accept that some things are just not going to change no matter how much you want them to? If this is something you're not willing to compromise on, take this lesson to heart, move on and look for a man who is more closely matched to your expectations. We all make mistakes. Of course, you can always try marriage counseling, perhaps a third person's perspective will help.

Answer 6

Don't give it up to him next time. Say you're not "in the mood". Then try and hint to him that women need to be in the mood or else it's not as good for them. Then again you guys are already married, maybe he thinks he doesn't have to use foreplay anymore.

Answer 7

you should talk to about it when you are doing nothing (not during sex, not right before sex, and not after sex) explain to him that you like foreplay and that the foreplay in your mind gets you excited and you feel like he doesn't want to please you sexually. Tell him exactly what you feel and try not to get angry or emotional when telling him. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

Just tell him or you start the foreplay tell him it would be so much more fun if he would get you a little more heated.
Good luck

Answer 9

Explain to him that if he will seduce you from the neck up, you will be happy to seduce him from the neck down. A woman's "foreplay" comes from within--we need to "feel" the love, then we are "open" for more.

Answer 10

Try to be hurt..
Tell him one more time, you need at least to warm up before the actual sex..
Try to do it on him when he is not in the mood,.. and force him to,, them tell him why and that is also your feeling.
If this will not work out then try to be hurt... everytime he makes love to you, tell him he is hurting you...
Don't be afraid,,, it is your right as much as his..
If he won't listen.. tell him he is so dumb he just want sex with you rather than make love with you...
Tell him you are not a whore just so he can have sex with you.. you need love making and that is different from having sex..
Tell him some more.
If he won't listen stop having sex with him,,, you can do it...fight, whenever he wants too,, that way he will listen,,, if not,, come back again for additional things to do