okay , heres the thing .... sex is fun ... but its so boring at the same time when u never get anywhere... right ?
ive never had an orgasm and i always feel unsatisfied... i want more but my partner cant take it ... like rounds are long and everything but no matter what he will do ill never have an orgasm .
im also curious about what frigid actually means ? does it mean u dont want sex ... like never in the mood ? or always being in the mood but not being able to have an orgasm ?
once i was told i was frigid, but i dont think it was because of my lack of interest in him (i was really horny actually lol) but still ... can someone help me ? like will i ever be able to have an orgasm ? or maybe im just like this... if i cant is there any treatment or something ? :( its really frustrating ... i want serious answers pls... its not a joke....
2006-09-05 09:00:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
well i tried the kamasutra... is it the same :P
2006-09-05 09:07:43 · update #1
i dont know if its me or my partner... like .... i dont know sometimes when im not doing it like when im studying or something or just out in my garden i think that maybe im not woman enough , like i dont deserve it and thats why i dont have one... and things like that and ive also thought about that i might not be able to have babies because of that ... it makes me really sad
2006-09-05 09:09:54 · update #2
oh yeah ... also ive never had an orgasm ... even if im doing things to myself
2006-09-05 09:11:06 · update #3
man or woman we all go thru this find what excites you get excited and get into it
2006-09-05 09:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most women, it's a mind game. By that I mean that you need to relax. With all this that's going on in your mind, there's no wonder you can't orgasm. You need to calm yourself down and just 'let go' for your sake and your partners. It's easier said than done, but you have to stop thinking of all these things. Try letting him go down on you, while you close your eyes and just feel what he's doing. Teach him what you like, and have him show you what he likes. Sex is supposed to be fun, not nerve wrecking. When you're on top, ride him slowly and increase your pace gradually, then do it all over again. Change positions until you find the one that you really like and can't get enough of. I guarantee you that with over 600 ways to have sex, there's one out there that will send you back to the bedroom every night.
Just try to calm yourself down and you will find that sex is the most pleasurable thing you've ever experienced.
And one last thing, orgasm has nothing to do with your having children or not.
2006-09-05 09:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by маұа 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to get yourself off first; solo!
Concentrate of the feelings, not on trying to have one!
Girls take a lot longer than guys, make sure your partner understands that and is willing to put in the time.
Most orgasms are clitoral. Vaginal orgasms are rare (but incredible!). So play with your "button".
My first time was while I was riding my bike. I think I was around ten. The dirt road had recently been graded, and there were a series of ripples on a long slope in front of our camp. As I coasted down the slope, the rhythmic bumps started feeling good, then the big "O" hit. I went down the hill again about a hundred times, but it wouldn't work again. Exploring myself later, I learned to make the same yummy feelings happen without the bike. You will too.
2006-09-05 09:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Slut 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is actually ver common for women to have a difficult time acheiving orgasm. A small percentage have them all the time, but a larger percentage have them only rarely and some (as much as 10% by some studies) never do have one.
The point is to do what you can to make it enjoyable for you as well as for him. Make sure you have plenty of foreplay and maybe try vibrators and other adult toys.
"Frigid" usually refers to not wanting sex, but not getting enjoyment out of it can lead to the same thing. Here is a website you can try
2006-09-05 09:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by loggrad98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to look into a "sex maunal." No joke here! You might even find some in your local library. (Again, no joke.) Books like that might have suggestions for things you and your partner can try to bring you to orgasm, and provide both of you with a higher degree of pleasure. Good luck.
2006-09-05 09:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought it might just be the other person and not you? Sometimes people are just not experienced enough to take you where you need to go in sex......so don't put so much pressure on yourself.......relax and let it come....if you still have a problem go to the doctor.....maybe they can give you some good advice on what is going on with you.....
2006-09-05 09:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by phattybiggums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to pleasure yourself and teach him how to give you an orgasm.
2006-09-05 09:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋